Need Dr. Drew relationship advice but don’t have the sensationalistic drama to warrant TV time? Unfortunately, Real Live College Guy Ryan isn’t a reality show therapist. However, he can provide the lowdown on everything you’ve ever wanted to know about college males: how they think, act, speak and genuinely interact with the women in their lives.
I cheated on my boyfriend last year and we broke up for awhile, but we are now back together. We’re fine, but all his friends hate me. How can I win over my boyfriend’s friends and prove to them that I’m not trying to play their bro? –
Looking For a Friend at Fordham
Bake them cookies. Snag them courtside Knicks… or Nets… actually, scratch that. Just bring over a 30-rack of PBR and a tall stack of Hustler and old Victoria’s Secret magazines.
Wait. Don’t do any of the above. What’s that old saying? Trust is hard to gain, but easy to lose. When you cheated on your boyfriend originally, their built-up trust went out the window. Although, what they think of you and how you feel about your boyfriend should be exclusively independent. Don’t sweat the former at this point.
There’s no easy way to prove that you’re not trying to play their bro other than just notplaying their bro. You can’t fix this situation with one defining act. This time around, remain faithful and his friends’ trust will eventually come back because they’ll see that you’ve learned from your past mistake.
They might act catty and snicker behind your back, but brush it off. They’ll have plenty of opinions regarding your resuscitated relationship, but those will eventually melt away if you don’t stray from your man in the future.
Winning them over won’t happen quickly, but don’t rule it out. It’ll eventually happen if you don’t stray. Also, baked goods are always a great second step.