Need polite, concise, pop culture-laden answers to your guy problemas? Our Real Live College Guy Joey (not to be confused with our other Real Live College Guy, Joe) will answer any and all questions about relationships and that ever-elusive beast, the male species, with thoughtfulness and (fingers-crossed) humor.
What should I do if I hooked up with a guy from my floor and now he won’t talk to me? What’s the deal? -Dormcester at Delaware
With guys like this – those who aren’t equipped for the maturity required by college relationships – it’s always best to confront the situation head on. No one will benefit from avoidance of the issue, and it will only become this huge, unnecessary and dramatic monster of an event. Next time you see him – regardless of if you’d like to repeat this mack-session or not – make sure to go out of your way to say hi and ask him how he’s doing. As embarrassing as that first interaction may be – never mind the abundant awkward silences sure to ensue – adopting this strategy will solve many-a-problem in the long run.
Do guys care if you have a bikini wax and/or have shaved your legs? If I’m out and a guy texts me to hook up but I either haven’t shaved my legs and/or don’t have a bikini wax, should I not hook up with him and just make up an excuse, or will he not care that I haven’t shaved? – Lazy at Le Moyne
This is a difficult question to succinctly answer, LLM… Mostly because it’s totally a matter of preference and confidence. Guys’ preferences over women’s nether regions differ from man to man, so it’s difficult to say whether or not a specific situation calls for an emergency shave or whatnot. As far as the scenario you give, that would be on you – you don’t have to answer this guy’s call for pillow-time, and you alone decide the state of your waxing situation. As long as you’re comfortable with your body and your personal grooming, then it shouldn’t stop you from a little booty call. Most guys will be understanding in that type of situation and ignore their preferences – or a slight stubble – for the night. And if they’re not, then this dude probably isn’t worth your time.
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I’m tall (5’7″). Will guys be intimidated if I wear heels (my heels are usually 3 or 4 inches)? I usually wear flats when I go out because I feel like heels look like too much since I’m already tall, but what do you think? – Stiletto-Starved at St. Ambrose.Â
Personally, I’m secure enough with my own masculinity not to be insecure about tall women – my Mom’s tall, as are all of my close (girl) friends – but some guys might be. My advice though? If you feel confident and more attractive in heels, then who cares what that Napoleon-esque dude thinks about your height? Most guys love women in heels, regardless of how tall they may be in them. Why do you think men have always cared so much for the Heidi’s and Tyra’s of the world? The endpoint of this type of situation is that you’re going to feel most confident when you feel the most attractive – if heels do that for you, then any guy is bound to notice your confidence far more quickly than any difference in height.
I went out to dinner with this guy and we had a really great date and then we went back to his room, hooked up and I slept over. Everything about the night went great—I thought—but then in the morning he was super awkward. It’s been a couple days since, and I haven’t heard from him. What happened and what should I do? I’d like to see him again. – Sleepover Queen at Salem State
Well, if by slept over you really mean “had sex and then fell asleep,” then it may be a simple case of too much, too soon. As much as we may pretend otherwise, the storied dogma of “Lady in the Street and Freak in the Bed,” is fairly accurate. Guys aren’t likely to see you as girlfriend material if you put out on the first date. As embarrassing and emasculating as it may be, I do enjoy an episode of “Millionaire Matchmaker” from time to time (read: whenever I see it on TV), and if it’s taught me anything, it’s that women and men should wait until the third date to give it up. Also of importance with that show? Her LIPS. They. Never. Move. That’s neither here nor there, though. Back to your question. Sure, some guys (and girls) will bray “false!” at that statement. But in MY experience, it’s held as a fact. What’s the problem in keeping that part of you hidden for a couple of dates? #ThingsILearnedInCollege