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Valentine’s Day isn’t the only day you should be putting your pleasure first. Whether you’re with or without a partner, adding a little kink to your life is the best way to experience a ~deeper~ kind of pleasure. There’s a lot of great starter kinky sex toys out there, especially if you’re a beginner looking to test out the uncharted waters of BDSM (aka Bondage/Discipline, Dominant/Submissive, Sadism/Masochism play). But, the overwhelming amount of options can sometimes seem daunting or intimidating.
Whether you’re trying your hand at roleplay or spicing it up with some bondage, these eight accessories I curated have you covered. So give in to your Fifty Shades fantasy, give them a try and live out your wildest fantasies in the bedroom — it’ll be a sexual adventure like no other.
- UTIMI Blindfold
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This versatile ribbon blindfold is perfectly designed to fit over your eyes. It’s also adjustable, allowing your partner to tie it as tight or loose as they want. Customers also marvel at how silky soft the material is, so you never have to worry about it feeling uncomfortable. Since it’s a ribbon, you can also use it as a restraint on other parts of your body. Whichever way you decide to use it, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by this affordable ribbon blindfold. BONUS: it’s currently seeing a small discount so make sure to shop it as soon as you can!
UTIMI, Amazon, $7.50 (was $8), shop now
- Lelo Massage Candle
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This scented candle doubles as a massage oil. Made from soothing, sultry ingredients like shea butter and apricot kernel oil, and available in three delicious aromas, this candle will be the perfect addition to your nightstand. Dim the lights and fire it up; the soy wax will melt into a long-lasting, nourishing massage oil. Rub it into your own skin when you’re in getting in the mood or have your partner lather it over your erogenous regions. Either way, you’ll love how this oil makes your skin feel.
Lelo, $35, shop now
- NeDlyaSkuki Soft Handcuffs
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These adjustable handcuffs were made for beginners. Simply adjust the velcro so these cuffs fit snugly over your wrists, without biting into your skin (as most metal cuffs do). You can even detach these cuffs from each other if you’re looking for something more advanced, like cuffing your ankles to your bedpost. No matter how you decide to use them, these durable, adjustable cuffs will help you live out your wildest bondage fantasies with your partner.
NeDlyaSkuki, Etsy, $15, shop now
- Vivolover Feather Tickler
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If you’re looking to add something to your goodie drawer, consider this feather tickler that doubles as a whip. Start slowly by gently stroking this tickler along your body or get darker and gently slap the whip against your skin — you decide what works for you. If you’re running solo, you can also use this tickler as part of foreplay and enhance your orgasmic experience. Reviewers also marvel at how high-quality and durable this toy is, even at its cheap price. Just make sure to shop it quickly — it’s usually in high demand.
Vivolover, Amazon, $6, shop now
- Lovehoney Vibrating Love Egg
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Slip this vibrator in, hand over the remote to your partner and indulge in a night full of pleasure and mystery. Give up control and let your partner choose from one of 10 different vibrator settings to get you off. It’s also incredibly compact and discreet so you can carry it with you on a night out. What’s more, it’s also currently selling at 60 percent off, so you can grab this vibrating gadget on the cheap. If you’re looking for more robust vibrators or an even more comprehensive list, be sure to check out this list for the best vibrators for beginners.
Lovehoney, $20 (was $50), shop now
- Spencers Red Rope Flogger
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A flogger is a great toy for foreplay. Have your partner gently lash this flogger against your sensitive skin. You can also use it to tease your body between your legs or over your/your partner’s breasts. Whether you’re the one wielding it or on the receiving end, this affordable flogger will be sure to turn up the heat in your bedroom. It also comes with a one-year guarantee, so you know you’re getting your money’s worth.
Spencers, $10, shop now
- Lovehoney Rose Gold Nipple Clamps
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Engage in some sensory play with these beautiful rose gold nipple clamps. They’re perfect for beginners as they’re fully adjustable (and honestly kinda cute). You can easily personalize how tight you want these crocodile-style clips to be and add this accessory to your nightly foreplay. You can also place these clamps upon yourself and pair them with another toy like your favorite vibrator. The gentle pressure from these nipple clamps will make your orgasm feel that much deeper.
Lovehoney, $23, shop now
- Lovehoney Tie & Tease Kit
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Can’t decide which kinky product works best for you? Buy this starter kit! It comes with a blindfold, restraints, and a tickler perfect to help you explore the world of BDSM. Tie your partner up, tease them with the tickler, or enhance their sensory pleasure by blindfolding them. You could even get adventurous and try all three together. Just make sure you and your partner have a safeword in mind.
Lovehoney, $20, shop now
Remember: Always know your limit and never do anything that makes you uncomfortable. BDSM can be fun, but it needs to be done safely. Talk it out with your partner before you play with any of these toys!