Have you ever had that one relationship where you thought it would last forever, and then out of nowhere, it ends? Whether it be a relationship with a friend, an ex, or a family member, it is the fallout that hurts the most. The feeling of loss and not being good enough to keep a steady relationship hurts. So, I write this letter to act as a voice for those who were never able to completely express themselves after the loss of their relationship.
The first thing that comes to mind when I think of my previously lost relationships is the sadness I felt. I know I had felt like it was all my fault and that I was not good enough. I had begun to put the blame on myself and think of things that I had done wrong during the relationship. It was not until later that I realized that this is normal; it is okay to think and blame yourself, but only to a point that is kept healthy. Here’s a few things you can do to help overcome a heartbreaking fallout:
Watch a Good Movie
The worst thing you can do is sit in bed all day and ponder “where did I go wrong?” So, why not try getting your mind off of it? Try watching a movie. I’ve found that it helps to get out of your own head and indulge in the world and characters portrayed in a movie (a little advice though, watching The Notebook is probably not the best idea).
Hang Out With Your Family and Friends
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If you’re going through a fallout with a friend, then the best thing to do is to forget about all that drama and hang out with your family. I’ve found that hanging out with your family is one of the best ways to deal with the loss of a relationship because no one can cheer you up as well as your family. Whether it be shopping with your mom or just watching TV with your dad, the change in the environment and people will help you feel much better.
Get a Hobby
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The best best best way to forget about the drama in your life is to get a hobby and do something you really enjoy. Personally, I find that when I’m upset, I turn to cleaning. From my room, to the washroom, to even the vents, I clean like my life depends on it. Cleaning helps me see that there are many other things in the world that matter outside of my own problems. Even if it doesn’t make me feel better, it definitely changes my perspective.
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We all go through problems in our lives. What’s important is how we deal with these issues and overcoming them in a healthy fashion. These methods are just a few of the things I do when I am having a hard time in my life, but there are so many other ways. It is important to realize that fallout, heartbreak, and loss are all a part of life and in the end it is the same experiences that make us stronger and wiser.