The LGBTQ+ community is large and ever-growing. Long have we been fighting for our rights and world in this modern society and we are finally seeing some changes being made. You do not have to have a different identity then what you were born with to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community. To be an ally, all you have to do is treat people with respect.
Allyship in the community means being there for those who are struggling and uplifting them. The LGBTQ+ community is meant to be a family that encourages others to be themselves. Just because you are straight or cisgender (meaning you identify with the gender you were born with) does not mean that you cannot join and strengthen the community.
A few ways that can help you to become a better ally:
- Using non-specific gender terms.
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A big thing is that you never know what other people in the room identify as. Using words such as “you all,” “ya’ll,” and “everybody” can make a difference in someone’s day. When discussing “boyfriends” or “girlfriends,” terms like “partner” or “significant other” are easier to use when you do not know someone’s preference and you can avoid the awkward “I don’t like/I prefer *gender/identity*.”
- Do some research.
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If you are confused about any particular terms, it doesn’t hurt to do some research or ask someone. Asking, if done politely and not in a rude manner, is always accepted. Not every member will know everything, but it is good to stay informed. Not only with terms, but also know some of the larger issues happening in the community; what and who are affecting and impacting the community in a negative way.
- Get involved.
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Not everyone can get involved, but allies have more of a voice than others. There are many organizations, either on campus or off, that speak up for LGBTQ+ rights by going to rallies, marches, protests, etc. Simply speaking up or politely correcting someone when you hear something that is incorrect or rude about pronouns, stereotypes, inappropriate slang words, or the community in itself also counts.
A huge part is just being respectful to those around you and being a shoulder for them to lean on if needed. Speak up for those who need it, but do not speak over them. They have voices too so just lend a hand. We’re all in this world for a short time, so let’s make it a good time for all.