Once we find that special guy, we can’t help but question how he feels in return. You start to wonder – does he like me? If he liked me, would he make a move? Should I make the first move? If you’re stuck in this seemingly unending circle, we’ve gotten the inside scoop into a guy’s mind to help you out. We chatted with some XU boys to gain some wisdom into the male psyche (we’ve kept their names private for confidentiality reasons!). Girls making the first move? Here’s what they had to say:
Boys love it when girls make the first move.
Almost every guy we interviewed loved the idea of the girl making the first move. They thought it was something different and unique.
- “Its pretty cool if she does – why wait for the boy to make the move?”
- “I feel like the girl making the first move is something guys don’t see often. It shows that a girl is confident and would most likely pique my interest.”
However, they may tease you after you make your move.
After hearing this wonderful news, we had to ask, would boys tease a girl if she had the courage to make the first move. Unfortunately, the answers were mixed. Some guys would tease the girl and some would be respectful of her privacy. Some boys even mentioned how their friends may tease the girl, even though the boy himself would not.
- “I wouldn’t, that would be mean.”
- “Depending on who the girl is, yes but just a few times.”
- “If she is shy, then I wouldn’t expose her; if she was confident, then I probably would.”
Also, keep in mind, they may not be attracted to you – and that’s okay.
Next, we asked our XU test group how they would feel if they were approached by a girl that they didn’t like or weren’t attracted to. Again, the results were mixed. Some boys said that they would politely decline but would still consider the girl a friend. Others said that they would simply decline or say they had a girlfriend.
- “If a girl made the first move on me and I wasn’t into her, I’d still try and be her friend. But you have to establish the boundaries of your relationship first before to avoid hurting her feelings.”
- “Depends on what you mean by like. If she was a nice person but someone I wasn’t attracted to I would be nice in return, but I would be less flirtatious I guess. If I didn’t like her as a person, then I’d probably be very short with her.”
But don’t lose hope if you’re shy; boys know when they want to make the first move too.
Would these men eventually make the first move if they liked someone? Almost everyone said, yes, they would make the first move; however, each one had their own process of getting around to it. One thing they all had in common: figuring out if she was interested in him.
- “It depends on the girl. If she’s giving me signals and if I know that I have a good chance, I would.”
- “Yes, but it would be a slow process”
- “I guess if I really liked her. I’d probably just flirt with her more.”
Finally, what do boys suggest is a good “first move” a girl can make?
Now, inquiring minds would like to know, what is the best way to make the first move on a guy without weirding him out? Survey says be casual.
- “A good first move would be to acknowledge that you have seen this person before. A lot of times the first hello can be awkward when both people act like they haven’t ever seen the other person walking round campus. But when you say, ‘Hey, I think I’ve seen you before at whatever’ it gives off a very personable vibe and can be charming”
- “It wouldn’t be weird if she just said hi.”
- “Approaching and talking to me on a regular basis and expressing interest in what I have to say.”
There you have it: if you’re ready, then go ahead and make that first move. Afterall, these guys like it when girls make the first move, and it will definitely make you stand out. No reason to wait around for what you want, go out there and see if he’s interested. It is 2016 after all! If you’re not quite ready to put yourself out there in that way, make sure you’re sending clear signals that you are interested so they feel comfortable making the first move.
Good luck in the dating scene, collegiettes!