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You Are 20

Your boyfriend of a year dumped you. You didn’t get the internship you poured your heart into applying for. You don’t know if your major is for you. You question where the hell you’ll work in a year, if you’ll have a job when you graduate and if you have enough money to get dinner. Sigh.


Guess what.

You are 20.

Life sucks, I know. It’s not fair sometimes. When it rains, it pours. You feel like you’re stuck in this storm and it won’t move past you. You’re stuck, soaking wet and feeling pathetic. Everyone’s watching. Everyone’s happy. And you’re not. You don’t have control and it sucks.

But you’re so damn young. You are two decades old. You haven’t lived your selfish years yet. You haven’t experienced living on your own – fully. You are barely even developed into who you are meant to be. It’s just the beginning.

So, toughen up. Worse things will happen. But, momma did not raise a quitter, did she?

It is hard to trust, but things will work out. You are meant to go through this time to grow a backbone and become stronger. That guy you lost will become a stranger overtime and he will miss you. That internship will come and go, but better opportunities will come. Your major may not be for you, and that’s okay. You’ll find a job. You’ll end up where you’re meant to be.

Hold on to the hope that things will be so incredibly amazing one day that you’ll laugh at how you’re feeling now. You will look back and wish you could tell yourself “I told you so.”

You are 20. You haven’t danced on tabletops in the bar in Soho. You haven’t stayed out all night until the sunrise in a foreign country. You haven’t fully depended on yourself for everything. You haven’t lived nearly as much as you think you have.

Do not let this boy make you cold. Do not let this missed chance turn into a lifetime of disappointment. It’s a bad phase. Not a bad life.

You are 20. You are young. Be young.

Hi ladies and gents, my name is Mel, Melanie if you're feelin' fancy. I'm a senior studying advertising, political science and fashion at West Virginia University. In addition to my studies, I am the Campus Correspondent for the WVU HC Chapter! You can hear me on the radio at U92 FM reporting the news and hosting morning shows. If I'm not there, I'm most likely at the local Panera eating my body weight in broccoli cheddar soup or writing about the daily, awkward encounters I experience. I represenative of the college of media as an ambassador and the prez of the magazine club. Oversized sweatshirts and jean on jean are my aesthetics. Lover, not a fighter unless you tell me Joe Jonas wasn't the best Jonas. Laters, baby.
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