It would be a lie to say that you’ve never fantasized about that ideal person you’d like to spend your time with…the person that you would cuddle up next to during a movie, go out with on date night or brag to your friends about. We’ve all been there and for most of us, we have yet to meet wonderful that person. But don’t let that get you down because these 4 short years of college shouldn’t be about trying to find the elusive ‘one.’ These years are supposed to the ‘golden’ years, jam-packed with memories, life-lasting friendships and you putting yourself first. If you’re still not convinced, here are a few reasons why it’s perfectly okay to be single in college.
1. Focusing on YOU
This is a time to discover who you are. Take the time to try different things, sports, and clubs, even learn a different language! At college, you’ll be exposed to many different and amazing opportunities so take the time to grow as a person and when you’re finally ready for a relationship you’ll know your self-worth.
2. Figuring out what you want and don’t want in a person.
Because you’re not committed to someone, you’re free causally date and build up some dating experience! You’ll be able to figure out your likes and dislikes, what kinds of qualities you like in a person and what you want to stay away from. Being around your friends that are in relationships will help you too, allowing you to watch their interactions.
3. Less Distractions.
Being in a relationship can prove distracting and can take away from your friends, your hobbies and more importantly your weekly Netflix marathons…I mean studies. But seriously, remember why you came to college in the first place, for a higher education.
4. Less Drama.
While I can’t promise the drama within your sorority or group of friends will go away, I can promise you that if you’re single you don’t have to worry about someone else’s feelings 24/7…or even your own. You’ll be worried about what they’re doing, who they’re with or whose pictures they’re liking.
6. Not having to explain your intentions/actions
Like I said, no drama. The single life means you’re free to do whatever you please. There’s a cute guy at the bar you want to flirt with? Do it. Want to go to a party with your girlfriends? Go for it. No relationship means less drama means more carefree fun. Sounds good right?
Many people associate being single with lonely Friday nights in watching romcoms and binging on chocolate chip ice cream. But it doesn’t have to be that way, being single can be about taking chances and doing all the things you want to do without being tied down. Love shows up at the most unexpected moment, so don’t spend anymore time chasing it. You’re only an undergrad once…go all out!