Dear girl,
I can only imagine what you’re feeling right now. Healing takes time, so take as much time as you need. You are so strong and I know your comeback is going to be amazing. I just wanted to remind you that life goes on; this is not the end and here is why:
One door closes, another one opens.
He was your best friend for a very long time, but to be honest, real best friends don’t make excuses and they don’t just get up one day and decide they don’t want to be best friends anymore. Real friends work through conflicts and tough times TOGETHER. Someday, somewhere, someone will be able to be that best friend for you. Right now, don’t worry about finding another door to open, it will. Be patient and trust that you deserve better because you do.
Don’t let other people define you.
It might sound silly, but not many people actually take the time to think about who they would be without the people they have surrounded themselves with. Who are you when you’re not his girlfriend? This is when you really get to find out. You have a solid support system behind you, but they are supportive of who you are as your own person. They love you for you. Do things that make you happy and find new things that will make you even happier.
Good days are behind you, but better days are ahead.
The memories you made with him will always have a special place in your heart, but that is just a very, very, extremely tiny part of your heart; it’s actually more like a vein or something. Anyway, my point is that some things will always remind you of him, but don’t let that ruin the time you could be spending with someone else. It’s going to be too difficult to just forget about him, so don’t even worry about that. You can't change the past, but you can accept it and move forward.
This is your time, claim it!
In relationships, it’s all about balancing everything out with another person; you give what you get. Now you can do whatever you want. Focus on yourself, better yourself, and just be yourself. Think about who you were before him, think about who you were with him, and now decide who you want to be without him.
Sincerely,
Amber