When you think back to about eighth grade well, at least for me eighth grade was about that time I went on my first date, and it started something like this:
Aim Messenger:
Johnnyboyy223: hey. you’re pretty
Jennxoxo: hey! Thx
Johnnyboyy223: Wanna go to the movies Friday night, my mom can take us?
The above conversation is just a glimpse of the horrific perception of love our generation thinks is acceptable. We have it all wrong, and it started off during a time when we didn’t even realize it.
A couple facts about myself I’m an only child with an only child dad. Meaning the over protective no man will ever touch my daughter unless he gets my approval dad. So, you can brainstorm about how my teenage years went.
Around 15 I argued I was growing up, and it was time I should be allowed to have boys over because all my friends were.
I couldn’t be more thankful now for my parents continuous no’s….when your parents say they’re right they always are. As I sit back, and for once in my life actually look around at the perspective of love in my generation I’m truly frightened.
We have a SERIOUS problem, and it’s time to open our eyes.
The easiest way to explain part of the problem would be to say our generation is obsessed with instant gratification. This just meaning we are lazy. We grew up knowing anything we wanted could be at the tip of our fingertips with little to no effort.
This could be as drastic as the fact we go on apps to find dates, or as simple as telling Siri where we want to go without using a paper map.
But, let me rewind back to that whole finding a date using an app situation.
How the HELL is anyone supposed to find love when boys are spending their nights swiping left and right for their local hookup, and girls are pondering their fingers waiting for 200 likes on Instagram to make their day.
Too many of us are complaining about that guy that screwed you over instead of actually getting out there and fixing the problem.
My advice to you all is to get off of social media and find love the right way.
Relationships are truly difficult now, because conversations are shared over texting, arguments are said over phone calls, and upset feelings are shared over status updates.
We all need to find a guy who appreciates the small things in a relationship, and respects them.
But, to find that guy ladies you also have to maybe change some of your actions.
• Stop sleeping around, and respect the person you are. As much attention as that guy might show you after all those crazy nights you’ll never be the first thing he thinks about in the morning.
• Acting dumb in front of guys is not cute
• Don’t be the drunkest girl at the party
• Take college seriously an independent women can do wonders
• Be comfortable in your own skin, you’re beautiful the way you are
• Don’t think you always need a man, love will find you
Their once was a phrase I think has slipped our minds “make love” it’s supposed to be a beautiful thing you experience with someone who truly cares about you. I’m starting to think that we all forgot about it.
Just remember all those times you went out just for the sake to go out and get with someone who isn’t right for you…… you’re giving up the chance to meet someone who is.