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A Letter To The Guy Who Hurt My Best Friend

Melanie Smith
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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at WVU chapter.

Hi guy who hurt my friend,

It’s me… your girl’s best friend, her day one girl and her ride or die. I’ve heard that you haven’t been treating her with respect. I have a few words for you and I want you to read this carefully.

When you hurt her, it hurts me. When she cries about you, I am the shoulder she cries on. We take a trip to McDonalds and sit in the car venting about how disrespectful or rude your last text was. We talk about your drunken texts from the night before and discuss how much you take her for granted. You may be a little oblivious if you do not realize that I know everything and I want to make you realize what you are losing when you make her cry.

You are losing someone who wants the best for you. She wants to see you shine. When she is hurting, even if it is from you, she wants you. She wants to make it work because you make her feel like the sun. But, just as good as you make her feel, that is also the intensity of how bad you make her feel. When you are dancing at the bar with other girls, she is crying at home in bed. When your texts start to make no sense, she knows the tequila got the best of you and wonders where you will end up tonight. When you expect her to drop everything for you yet you can not even text her back, well that makes her the angriest of all.

You may not be officially dating. You may not have the concrete commitment. But, for God’s sake, do not treat her like a toy. You cannot expect someone to stay in your life if you treat her like the dirt you walk on. She would give anything to be in your arms, loving you with all her energy. But, instead, you want to live the college life, or what you believe is the genuine college life. You want to drink your nights away and experience random hookups. You want to be at happy hour every evening, downing pitchers of alcohol with your boys. You want the single life and the girl. Sweetheart, it doesn’t work that way.

You need to pick what you want. You need to value her. Your girl is my girl. She is my rock. She has been there for me through hell and back. She has been through hell and back in her own life. But, she deals with your miniscule problems. She acts like it is a big deal if you are upset about things that will not matter in a week. It is because she cares for you. And, if you cared for her, you would treat her with respect.

On that note, I hope you realize her worth. You don’t deserve her. But, she will never hate you, no matter how much you hurt her. Do not take advantage of that.

And remember… I find out everything. And I will make sure you know how much you messed up if you lose her.

Sincerely,

Your girl’s best friend

 

 

Hi ladies and gents, my name is Mel, Melanie if you're feelin' fancy. I'm a senior studying advertising, political science and fashion at West Virginia University. In addition to my studies, I am the Campus Correspondent for the WVU HC Chapter! You can hear me on the radio at U92 FM reporting the news and hosting morning shows. If I'm not there, I'm most likely at the local Panera eating my body weight in broccoli cheddar soup or writing about the daily, awkward encounters I experience. I represenative of the college of media as an ambassador and the prez of the magazine club. Oversized sweatshirts and jean on jean are my aesthetics. Lover, not a fighter unless you tell me Joe Jonas wasn't the best Jonas. Laters, baby.
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  I grew up in Charleston, West Virginia. Growing up here I knew there was a possibility of going to West Virginia University my entire life. Although I decided to start my college career at the University of Kentucky, those country roads led me back to WVU in the spring of my sophomore year. This was also the point when I decided to establish myself as a Broadcast Journalist student. Since this point I have strived to become the best possible journalist I can be. I am currently working as a weekend reporter for WDTV-Channel 5 in Clarksburg, West Virginia. Prior to receiving this position, I worked as an intern with WCHS-tv/FOX11, in the summer of 2014, where I learned critical editing, interviewing, writing, and speaking skills. I worked closely with anchors, reporters, editors, directors, producers, and even the web team. Aside from the television industry, I am the Campus Correspondent for the West Virginia University Chapter of the online entertainment magazine, Her Campus. Another position I currently hold is the Social Media Chair of WVU’s Radio Television Digital News Association Chapter. In the Fall of 2012, I became a sister of the Alpha Phi Fraternity, in which I held the position of ‘Big Sister Chairman.’ My other passions include horse back riding, scuba diving, being outdoors, and running. I am very adventurous and I try to stay well rounded. My goal in life is to live life to the fullest and be the best possible version of myself. My ultimate goal would be to earn a spot as a reporter/anchor for Fox News, New York. I plan to graduate in December of 2016 and look forward to my future.