Thanksgiving is one of the few times each year when extended families gather around the same table. Between catching up, carving the turkey and passing the mashed potatoes, conversations can sometimes turn awkward or stall completely. To keep things enjoyable, it helps to have a few lighthearted and meaningful topics ready that spark laughter and connection.
Ask about memories
One of the easiest ways to start a conversation with relatives you do not see often is to ask about past Thanksgivings or family traditions. Questions such as “What was your favorite Thanksgiving growing up?” or “What dish reminds you most of home?” invite stories that bring everyone together. Nostalgic topics often create laughter and help older family members feel included while giving younger ones a chance to learn something new about family history.
Talk about hobbies and interests
People enjoy sharing what they have been working on or what they are passionate about. Ask a cousin what new hobbies they have picked up or talk to an aunt about her favorite TV show or book. Simple questions like “What have you been watching lately?” or “Have you tried any new recipes this year?” can easily lead to a friendly discussion. These questions show interest without stepping into personal or controversial territory.
Focus on travel and experiences
If you are unsure what to ask, travel is always a safe topic. You can ask, “Have you taken any fun trips this year?” or “Where would you like to go next?” Sharing vacation stories or bucket-list destinations often leads to laughter and fun exchanges. Even those who have stayed close to home may enjoy talking about places they want to visit one day.
Keep it seasonal
Thanksgiving itself offers plenty of easy topics. Ask about favorite dishes, desserts or Black Friday plans. Talk about the parade, football game,s or upcoming winter holidays. If you want to keep the conversation light, you can even start a friendly debate about which pie is better: pumpkin or apple. Seasonal conversations remind everyone why they came together and help the meal feel warm and familiar.
Celebrate accomplishments
The holiday season is also a good time to celebrate each other’s achievements. Ask about a niece’s school projects, a cousin’s new job or a grandparent’s recent milestone. Compliments and curiosity make others feel appreciated. A simple “What’s something you’re proud of this year?” can lead to a positive, genuine conversation.
Play conversation games
If the table feels too quiet, turn it into a group activity. Try asking everyone to share one thing they are grateful for or play a quick “Would You Rather?” game with family-friendly options. Another fun idea is to go around the table and have each person share a goal for the next year. Games lighten the mood and help break up small talk.
Keep it kind and curious
The best Thanksgiving conversations happen when people listen with kindness and genuine curiosity. Avoid topics that might cause arguments and focus instead on finding common ground. A little humor and interest go a long way toward making everyone feel comfortable.
This Thanksgiving, remember that the best part of the holiday is not just the food but the people who share it with you. A thoughtful question or kind word can turn an ordinary dinner into a memory everyone will be thankful for.