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You’re not crazy for expecting your needs to be met

Women are too emotional. Why are you being so dramatic? You always take it too personally. You’re being too clingy. You’re asking for too much. Do you not appreciate everything I do for you? Women are crazy. 

Let’s be real, most of us have probably been told at least one of the comments listed above. Somehow, women are always made out to be crazy, but really, you’re just asking for your needs to be met and respected. There’s nothing crazy about that. It is about time we stop letting men make us think we're crazy and realize that he is just lazy. His inability to meet your needs says nothing about you and everything about him. 

First off, let's talk about the bare minimum. Have you ever begged a man for communication? Respect? Effort? For him to simply show that he cares about you? I know I have, but never again. The truth is that if someone can’t give you the bare minimum, they’re not ready for a relationship. Most things that we see as the bare minimum are things that must be done in any type of relationship, not just romantic ones. So if your partner can’t even treat you like they should treat a friend, they're not going to treat you right in a romantic relationship. Of course, relationships require communication, and sometimes you need to explicitly tell someone your needs for them to be met. However, if you tell them once and they can’t do it, it’s not for you. 

Now let’s say you do communicate your needs, and your partner tells you that you’re asking for too much. They’re wrong. What you need in a relationship is what you need, and no one can tell you that it is too much to ask for. If someone can’t give you what you need, then they’re not the person for you. Let me reiterate, this says nothing about you. You’re not wrong for feeling this way, you’re not crazy for having a need and you’re not asking for too much. They just don’t have enough to give you, and that’s okay, it just means that they aren’t the person you’re meant to be with. Really, if he doesn’t feel like putting in the work to make you feel loved, then you shouldn’t give them the energy either. 

I, for one, am a very sensitive person, which also tends to make me very emotional. My whole life I have been told that I’m too sensitive and that I can’t take a joke. I spent a lot of my life thinking they were right, that maybe I was the problem and I needed to change to be “easier”. It wasn’t until very recently that I’ve realized they were wrong. I am not too much of anything, and neither are you. you're the perfect amount of everything you're, because it makes you, you. Who you're and the way you feel things will never be too much for the right person, and the right person will never make you feel like you have to change. 

Women have always been made out to be too much. We’ve been called emotional, dramatic and crazy for much too long. It is time for all of us to realize that asking for what you need and expecting it to be given to you isn’t crazy, you’ve just been dating men who can’t manage to give it to you. That’s on them, not on you. Start embracing who you're, and remember that if a man makes you feel crazy, he is just really lazy. 

Mckenna Laurent

Wisconsin '25

Hi! I'm Mckenna and I am a student at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. I love reading, writing, and going to bed early. My hope is that my articles can make you feel a little more seen and a little less alone.
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