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What UW Guys Really Think About Hooking Up vs. Dating

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Wisconsin chapter.

Now I’m no expert, but if you’re looking for a boyfriend I can offer you one piece of advice—transfer to Boston College…now.  BC recently published an article asking guys if they would rather hook up or date girls. The answer? Date. No, that was NOT a typo. The article was full of quotes from guys saying they liked the emotional aspect of dating and wrote off hookups as meaningless sex that can be fun for a while but not as fulfilling as a relationship.  How much did they pay them to say that?  The majority of guys that I encounter at Madison would only be caught whispering those words to get into someone’s pants.  But maybe I was wrong about them and judged too quickly. So we asked a few gents what they really think about hooking up versus dating.  All I can say is, we’ve got some real gems over here in Wisco. Very romantic to say the least. #blessed

Take Devon for example:

“Like I always say, a random hookup is like a half-eaten pizza in the fridge: You don’t know who ate it last, but you know that it’s 2 a.m. and you’re hungry.”

Someone pass the tissues. That was beautiful. 


But wait, there’s more. Nate says:

“When I look for a hookup, I follow my dick. My drunk dick.”

Wow. So honest. Such an admirable trait.


Moving on to Justin:

“It’s about experimenting with as many people as you can because there’s six billion people in the world and if you settle for the first, you’ll never know the potential.”

Go big or go home. Reach for the stars.


Oh, and then there’s the deep conversations overheard in the dorms.

“Dude, that girl doesn’t even drink or get down.”

“Sounds like a drag to me. What’s the point of being a girl if you don’t do either or those?”

Thank you for this gentle reminder that freshmen are in fact the most intelligent and mature beings on campus.

However, according to Garret, girls aren’t worthless like the kind gentleman in the last quote hinted:

Girls have all the power. Any girl can hook up with any guy because they will be at least flattered if not interested in hooking up with her.”



If you haven’t caught on to my sarcasm, please join the two freshmen guys in a dark hole of torture I have created for them.  If you’re feeling a little distraught, don’t worry. Guys aren’t as heartless as they sometimes come off to be. After digging for more answers, most of them admitted to wanting more than just hooking up.  According to them, hooking up is just easier than dating. Plus, our culture has shifted and it’s not centered around the classic dinner-and-a-movie date. Instead, they argue that girls want hooking up just as much as guys do.  Guys are scared that girls will want more out of a hookup which is what turns them away.


When asked why guys don’t want a commitment, Tony said:

“Deep down, I think that most guys want something more. They don’t want all the drama and bullshit that come along if things don’t end well. Plus some guys can’t handle the responsibility of being in a relationship.”


Justin said:

“You hook up with almost ‘hidden’ goals that may not be the initial goal of just getting laid. Eventually, yes, you hope that one of the girls you end up with starts to mean more than just physical.”

Many say they wouldn’t mind being in a relationship but only if they find the right girl which they admit is a difficult task when thrown into a party-centered culture. Most guys would rather buy a girl shots than buy her flowers. 

Cheer up, buttercup. Before you walk around all sad that you won’t find love that rivals The Notebook think about it this way—the story of how you and your husband met will probably make a much more interesting one at your wedding. Who doesn’t want to meet while riding the bull at Red Rocks?  

Who wants Titanic-like love anyway? Girl please, I just watch that for the ship.




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Becca Bahrke is a junior at the University of Wisconsin- Madison majoring in Retailing and minoring in Entrepreneurship and Gender & Women Studies. Becca is currently the CC/EIC of Her Campus- Wisconsin, and will continue writing news. Becca's primary hobby is blogging on her tumblr http://beccahasnothingtowear.tumblr.com