To all my girls who have sat alone during lunch, felt invisible in a crowded room, who get there name called on in class and have a mini panic attack.
To all my girls who have felt like the ugly duckling surrounded by beautiful swans, please understand you are not that weirdo girl, or that ugly odd chick, you are so much more than those mean labels.
To all my girls, please know I understand, I am that girl too. I have grown since my middle school days, but even at twenty years old I still have a hard time finding my place. Especially as a girl who unfortunately knows the feeling of sitting alone in a bathroom stall during lunch time a bit too well, it hard to think positive of yourself.
I always felt like a loser, not worthy of people time or friendship.
It was not until I meet other girls who have walked in my shoes, that I realized I was not alone.
That’s my message to all my fellow wallflowers, you are not just that girl who sits in the corner. You have a name, and no that names isn’t loner or weirdo. Your name is something that shows you are a human, who matters, who deserve love, and appreciation.
Also its okay to be shy, not everybody has to be outgoing and talkative. Being shy isn’t a bad quality to have, sometimes shy girls need that extra push or just nervous to speak because of judgment.
I’ve been shy all of my life, it was until recently I began to speak in public. It took time of building self-confidence, and finding people who accepted my shy demeanor, to get me out of my shell.
I finally learned to express myself, and it was not from speaking.
I found writing, I found photography, and I found my self-expression in creative outlets.
That’s my biggest advice to my fellow shy girl, who currently doing the turtle dance (put yourself in your shell). Find your self-expression, and embrace it.
Embrace that thing that makes you feel like a swan just spreading there wings for the first time.
Being a swan isn’t something that happens overnight, the swan transforms. The swan was originally the awkward girl in the corner, who was out casted, but over time it grew, the swan found who she truly was, and then she blossomed.