Breakups can be one of the hardest things you can deal with. For some people it is a relief and for others their world has been flipped upside down. There is no specific way to feel, it all depends on you and your situation.
It’s okay to not be okay. Be kind to yourself and remind yourself that there is no time frame on how long it will take.
It can be tempting to want to get over a breakup quickly but you do not have to rush. Remind yourself of who you are surrounded by and that it can take time (but there’s no set time frame).
Prioritize yourself after a breakup and take time for things you would like to enjoy.
Things to help with a breakup:
One of the first things you can do is give yourself space. This can be done by removing your ex from social media and other platforms of communication.
By giving yourself space you are allowing yourself to be alone. This can be difficult at first but spend time with yourself and focus on certain things you want to improve on. This can include self-care, hanging out with friends, and building your support system to help keep you on track.
Secondly, keep yourself busy and occupied. With free time on your hands, you might find yourself lurking for ways to reach out to your ex. Avoid this by finding new habits and breaking old ones.
Take time for you. This includes all the self care. Take long baths, go to the gym, create good habits, watch movies, and listen to music.
Talk it out. Talking with others whom you feel comfortable with and sharing your feelings is important. Do not hold in all the emotions. Journaling has also been really helpful for spilling out emotions if you do not feel comfortable talking with others. Make it a routine to journal or talk to someone everyday or once a week.
Give it time. Allow yourself time to cope with the change after a break-up. There is no set time frame on how much time it will take. You are the only person in charge of how you feel and how long it will take to feel that way.
Try to get regular sleep, stay active and eat healthy. This will help occupy yourself and work on creating habits for the best and healthier version of yourself. Take time to learn to cook new meals, set a sleep schedule, and find new ways to get active.
Make a routine with yourself. When you are in a relationship with another person, you start to form habits and routines with them. Start to make routines and habits with yourself and stick to them.
Rebuild your self esteem. After a breakup it’s easy to pick apart things about yourself you wish to change. See those changes in a positive way to better yourself. Create a list of things you love about yourself and remind yourself of those traits or characteristics when you are feeling low.