Going from single to dating changes your 20’s depending on the longevity of your relationship. If you are looking for your soulmate and want to settle down consider what may change. Sometimes not everything needs to change just because you are dating someone. Single life for me was fun! For the most part…
While I was single my life was constantly moving and then would come to harsh halts. I was always hanging out with friends and going out. I had a lot of fun flirting with guys, figuring out who I was and seeing what guys I even liked. I felt like I had all the time in the world. Being 19 while I was single probably contributed to that as well. I serial dated for a time while single. Talked to a new guy pretty much every week until they lost my attention or we met and they could not hold a conversation like they could on Snapchat. I will say I did ghost someone as horrible as that is to say.
One of the guys I hung out with came over to my dorm, he then sat on my bed after I sat across the room from him. Not a big deal. Until I realized he sat on my bed with his shoes on. I was horrified and his personality did not compliment mine as well as I had hoped. I built a set of standards and what I will absolutely not accept from a partner. When I wasn’t dating around or hanging out with friends it could get lonely. Whilst being alone isn’t lonely some perspective is gained when all my friends were with their partners and I was alone. I spent a few holidays alone when my friends were out with their partners. It made me feel sad thinking about how I doubted myself and my ability to be a good partner and have a relationship. Being lonely made me want to speed my single life to the finish line. I longed for someone to share my life with. All my life I knew I wanted to fall in love and find my life partner.
When I first started dating my boyfriend everything felt perfect. I finally had my person to hang out with. I found someone who makes grocery shopping fun. We went to movies, vacations, and, just enjoyed getting to know each other. But I realized I spent less time with friends and less time alone. My friendships balanced and overall just changed. Most of my friends had relationships and spent the majority of their time with their boyfriends. So we found ways to spend time together alone and with our partners. Not being single anymore, working and being a student is hard. Before I felt like everything I had going on found its time to get done without me having to write anything down.
Now I learned I have to become a more organized person. I had to make time for everything before it was effortless. It is not a fun feeling knowing that there isn’t enough time in a day to get everything done. I have had to learn to balance. While I may have time to go out sometimes I need to stay in just to remind myself to make time for myself. I am always on the go and I need time to check in with myself and just enjoy being alone. Time goes by so much faster than when I was single. Although I have more on my plate I wouldn’t go back to being single any time soon. I enjoy the time I get to spend with my partner and treasure every moment we spend together.