I’ll be the first to admit I was one of those girls who came into college expecting to meet her College Sweetheart/Prince Charming and ride away off of Scholars Walk. And I’ll also be the first to admit that nothing even close to that happened.
I was pretty puzzled as to why nothing worked out how the magazines, movies, and friends told me it would. Being a hopeless romantic, it was hard for me to face the harsh reality of life.
But the truth is, guys don’t enter college and suddenly become mature. In fact, they usually become even more immature than they were in high school. Just like you, it’s their first time leaving home and experiencing freedom. So why is it that most girls come to college seeking their Mr. Right and guys just want to have fun? I mean really think about it. How is it fair that every few months we are crying in our dorm rooms over a guy who just wasn’t ready to get serious? IT’S NOT FAIR.
That is why it is time you freshmen and sophomores change your mentality. The first 2 years of college are the most transformative periods of your youth. You will learn more about yourself in these two years than you ever thought you could. So here’s 5 reasons you should thank freshman and sophomore guys for not wanting to settle down with you:
1. Thank you guys, for giving me freedom.
You have complete freedom to do what you want, just like guys do! Use this time to do absolutely anything you want! Whether it’s staying up until 4 AM eating a few too many cheetos or going to an 80’s themed party, you have complete freedom to do it. Often times being in a relationship does require you to sacrifice. Spend this single time being selfish! You don’t have to worry about what anyone thinks, just yourself.
2. Thank you guys for allowing me to see what I want for myself romantically.
See what’s out there! The dating pool is a pretty big one your first two years of college. Everyone is going through the same things you are. There’s so much new and a little bit old too. This is a great time to determine what you do and do not want in a future relationship. Putting yourself out there is the only way to figure it out! The options are endless and so are your Twitter DMs ;)
3. Thank you guys for letting me make the best memories with the greatest friends!
While you may not meet your groom in college, you can definitely meet your bridesmaids. I know for me personally, my favorite memories of college thus far have been with my girlfriends! No one understands you like them and let’s be real…shopping is so much more fun with your best pal!
4. Thank you guys for letting me get involved.
This is a great time to join organizations or clubs on campus! Getting busy is a great way to meet new people and be engaged in things you love. Whether it’s joining the school newspaper, a sorority, or sky diving club; this is your time to shine as a leader or dedicated member in your campus community. It’s harder to balance it all when you’re in a relationship.
5. Lastly, thank you guys for letting me find myself.
To be quite honest I didn’t really know MY own opinions on politics, social issues, and controversial topics. I didn’t know what I wanted for my future, what I should truly major in, who I should be friends with, etc. This is THE absolute best time to explore who you really are, as cheesy as it sounds. It’s much easier to think freely when you don’t have someone else’s influence on you.
Before letting someone else love you, learn to love yourself first. HXCO.