Dear Guydance,
Is it okay for a girl to say “I love you” first?
Sincerely,
Anon
Dear Anon,
I love this question. It’s a common one for girls and hopefully I can help you out!
Some guys, as you know, can be blind and dumb when it comes to love. They don’t want to fall into the “sappy” part of being “in love” so they put this off as long as they can. Some men are completely okay with saying it first and some are absolutely terrified by the whole idea of it. You must remember that love is a huge concept. It’s the bond formed between two people, both emotionally and physically. But if you truly feel it, there’s no reason to hide it.
In the grand scheme of things I don’t believe it matters who says “I love you” first in a relationship. I believe that if you feel it you should say it. One of the biggest regrets in our lives can be that we don’t say “I love you” enough to the people who matter the most to us. I know this can be an absolutely terrifying experience but when it’s finally said there’s a weight lifted off your shoulders. Don’t worry about him not saying it back because if you say it and mean it with all your heart, he most likely feels it as well. If he doesn’t, there’s a different conversation that should be had.
So please learn from Blair and Chuck, tell your man that you love him and don’t look back.
Sincerely,
Adam Bartusek