For those who may not be familiar with the term “cuffing season,” it’s a time of the year (usually between the start of winter to the end of spring) where people tend to find themselves longing to start a relationship, usually a casual or short-term one. The concept itself can be quite complicated to get used to, but we have a short list of some tips that help guide first-timers on how to make the most out of cuffing season.
1. Do open yourself to options. Don’t settle for less.
It can be difficult to find someone within a short span of time, especially someone that you’re both attracted to and interested in, so a good tip is to explore your options and pace yourself. There are so many ways to meet new people; sources include everything from mutual friends to dating apps. Try going on dates with a few people and pick whoever you feel compliments you the most, but whatever you do, DON’T text your ex if you can’t find anyone!
2. Do communicate. Don’t share serious feelings.
It’s important to make sure that you and your partner are on the same page, so communication is crucial in setting the ground rules and expectations for your relationship. On the flip side, you don’t have to share all your deepest, darkest secrets and emotions to your partner; especially information about your previous relationships, insecurities, etc. You should be honest about your feelings for your partner however, so if you think you are catching the feels, make sure to let your partner know.
3. Do know your priorities. Don’t get too attached.
It can be really easy to forget that your relationship is casual because you’re having so much fun and maybe even developing feelings for your partner. However, this can be an issue when you let this take over your life, examples being flaking on your friends for your cuffing buddy, losing focus in school, etc. Make sure that you are clear on your priorities for this relationship; establish whether you’re interested in a long-term relationship with your partner or if it’s just a fling that will be over by spring.
4. Do enjoy your relationship while it lasts. Don’t overthink anything.
It’s important to go in with a mindset that your relationship is temporary so that you don’t get hurt if it ends abruptly. When you start noticing signs that the excitement is wearing off, don’t hesitate on calling the relationship off. Instead of reminiscing about what could have been, take time to reflect on the good times that you had during your relationship; perhaps you had some funny stories or really fun date nights that you shared with your buddy. Fun times aside, it’s important to remember the reasons why you ended things and not focus too much on the past.