There are a variety of online quizzes to help determine who you are, including the Myers-Briggs personality test, enneagram quizzes and the big five personality traits. While the results of these quizzes are fascinating, there is one quiz that stands out as not only interesting but extremely helpful. This is the love language test: a series of questions to help you determine which is your top love language and by how much. You may be questioning why this is such an important quiz but knowing how you prefer to accept love is extremely important in determining the quality of your relationships, both romantic and platonic.
There are five love languages considered on this quiz. The first is touch, which is expressing and accepting touch as a form of love and appreciation. The second is words of affirmation, which is expressing positive thoughts to the other person through spoken language. The third is acts of service, such as when the other individual goes out of their way to do something for you in order to either make your day easier or to provide you with something. The fourth is gifts, which are as straightforward as receiving a gift from the other person. The fifth and final one is quality time, where both individuals spend time together doing either small or large things in each other’s presence.
After taking the quiz, you’ll receive your love languages in order from most to least applicable to you as well as a percentage associated with each one. The higher the percentage, the more it relates to you. When I first did the quiz for fun, I was not so much shocked by the results, but I did become more aware as to how I received love from others. My top result was quality time and as an introverted person who often shuts out people when I’m stressed, I realized that spending quality time with my friends and significant others made me feel safe and relaxed. Now whenever I begin to feel stressed and anxious, I choose not to dissociate myself from my loved ones and instead prioritize my quality time with them. My lowest love language was physical touch, which was clear to me as I have never been a touchy person, however, once I got my boyfriend to also complete the quiz, I noticed physical touch was much higher on his rankings. The results made me realize that while touch may not be my love language, it was his, and in order for him to feel loved physical touch was necessary.
For couples, taking the love languages test is an extremely important thing to do as we often try to show love to others in the way we prefer and not the way our partner does. For instance, when I show love I am extremely into gift-giving and always pick up little things that remind me of a person. However, after the love languages quiz, it came to my attention that my boyfriend’s lowest-ranked love language was gifting and so by constantly giving him gifts to show how I feel he may not feel as appreciated as if we spent quality time together. This way, both you and your significant other can see and understand how the other wishes to be shown love. It creates a more communicative and understanding relationship.
It is important to recognize that your love languages do not have to be similar in order to have a healthy relationship. It is simply recognizing how your partner wishes to receive love and acting on it in that way. For instance, if your number one love language is acts of service but your partner’s is quality time, all that means is that they can do little things for you to make you feel loved and you can make sure you prioritize your time together in order to make them feel loved. As long as there is a balance and recognition of what the other person wants, then the relationship can remain healthy and stable.
Taking online quizzes may seem like a waste of time but knowing your love language is extremely important. For both friendships and relationships, knowing how the other person feels loved and knowing what you look for to feel loved can set a strong path for a relationship and create a sense of understanding between both individuals.