An Open Letter to My Friend Going Through a Breakup

To my friend with a broken heart,

Please know that if there was something I could do to make it better, I would. As all relationships are different, all breakups are, too. I will not try to understand how you’re feeling, or what you’re going through, because I can’t. What I can tell you is that you are strong, you will get through this, and I will be there every step of the way. Whether you want to sit and watch movies for two days straight while stuffing your face with ice cream, pizza, and cookies, or, if you want to go shopping, clubbing, or do anything to take your mind off of the breakup, that is what we’ll do.

Although you probably feel as if you lost a part of you, I am here to remind you of who you were before this relationship, and who you can be after the relationship. Time heals all wounds and one day, this won’t matter. You’ll be able to look back, smile, and see how you’ve grown since this. Though it will be hard to move on, go at your own pace. Find ways to smile, laugh, and be happy with your friends and family, because they are your biggest support system.

Please stop hurting over someone who did this to you. If they broke your heart, they are fine without you. If they cheated on you, they were never worth it. If they didn’t try to make it work, they were not as invested as you were. I know it’s harsh, but isn’t it better you found this out sooner rather than later?

No amount of tears are going to bring back what your relationship once was, and though you may be broken now, you won’t be forever. This breakup will change the way you look at love. Your guard will be up, you will have issues with trust, and you will be scared to be vulnerable with someone new. But the day will come, and you will find the right person who won’t put you through this, and you will be happy again.