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How To Master the Art of Letting Go: Detaching Yourself from Negative Thoughts

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Something I believe to be a life skill that crosses into every area of life is the art of letting go. I know it sounds like a simple task, but, unfortunately, for most people, it’s easier said than done. As young adults, many of us have found ourselves entangled in a stream of thoughts that consist of school, work, relationships, family and friends. This can take a toll on the mind and contribute to not only stress but also overthinking. But don’t freak out! I have a couple of tips that, so far, have helped me when it comes to sorting out my mind and all that goes on up there.

1. Get Used to Change

Life is ever-changing and will never be static, so embrace change and all that comes with it. Challenges bring change, and with the good comes the bad. The most effective way I’ve found to deal with change is to learn from it, grow and evolve. This shift of perspective can alter how to handle whatever life throws at you. It’s okay not to be ready for change or not feel prepared but it’s important to not let thoughts of self-doubt and lack of confidence shut you down and stop you from discovering a new aspect of yourself that you otherwise wouldn’t have known.

2. Don’t Dwell on The Past

How can you expect yourself to grow and move on when you’re still holding on to the past? Whether this is from a grudge, a past relationship or an unsolved issue, letting go will give you the space you need to make the necessary changes in your life. Taking a step back and forgiving the person or situation can be difficult, but you must move on to grow from it. Letting go isn’t forgetting; it’s allowing yourself peace of mind. Allowing yourself to let go of the past will help you to focus on the present and the future. It will give you the clarity needed to make better decisions and live a life that brings you joy and fulfillment.

3. Practice Mindfulness

Create a space and time in your day where you can focus on the present. Whether this is done through meditation or yoga, if you’re keeping yourself in the moment, you reduce the risk of overthinking and creating negative thoughts and emotions. Being present allows you to gain clarity and insight into your thoughts and feelings. It also allows you to identify patterns that may be holding you back from achieving your goals. Taking the time to be mindful can also help you to uncover your true passions and purpose in life.

4. Change your Perspective

Shifting the way you look at and approach things can greatly impact how you handle them going forward. I find it best when faced with a tricky situation that I’m not sure how to handle, to look at it from another angle and question whether I can learn from it. If I can learn something, there’s a chance I’ll have a much easier time leaving this situation with a more positive outlook.

I’ve been trying to slowly incorporate these changes of perspective and ways of thinking into my daily life with the hopes of creating a more positive and present state of mind. I hope that this will provide me with the tools to build better relationships and become more successful in all aspects of my life. So, take a moment to breathe and soak in the beauty that is the present.

Hayatt Usman

Wilfrid Laurier '26

Hayatt Usman is a writer for Her Campus and covers topics such as fashion, lifestyle, and wellness. She is a communication studies major in her second year at Wilfrid Laurier University in Waterloo Ontario. She's passionate about writing and is excited to be a part of this wonderful community! Hayatt's career goals include marketing and advertising, and her interests range from discovering new music to listen to, working out at the gym, and going for runs.