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If you haven’t cried on your birthday, lucky you, because a large percentage of the world is jealous. Today, we’re going over the main reasons people cry on their birthday every year. If you can check every one of these off your list, as reasons you’ve previously cried on your birthday, congratulations, you’re a hot girl.

1. Fear of Getting Old

Getting older sucks, but there’s no better time to come to terms with it than on the day you age a year. Fear of getting old is one of the main reasons people cry on their birthday and it makes a lot of sense. If you have older relatives, they probably mention things that they did by the time they were your age. If not, they probably ask you questions about your career that you aren’t ready to deal with. In the end, these questions can make getting older seem a lot less appealing. But, next time you’re cry about getting older on your birthday, just remember it’s a privilege to get old, wrinkled and gain so many stories to tell one day.

2. Family Issues

Whether it’s a past loved one that you’ve never had a birthday without or divorced parents trying to behave at the dinner table, family drama is another main contender. Imagine trying to have a nice dinner with everyone you love and no one is getting along. Frustration can lead to tears really quickly. Honestly, the best solution for this one is to be selfish and do something with your friends first. Then, do something with your family either the day before or day after, to try and mitigate the problems your family tends to have. That way, you’ll be less sensitive to the issue when it’s not actually your birthday.

3. Partner Problems

Also a hot topic… someone queue The Moment I Knew by Taylor Swift for me. Partners can make or break an entire birthday event just by their mood. If you expect your partner to wake up smiling, singing you happy birthday and they don’t, that shifts the mood of your day already. And, even worse, if they forget your birthday or don’t get you anything, obviously tears are expected. If this happens to you, please leave them. Do it on your birthday for all I care, because they clearly aren’t a good partner if they make you cry on your birthday, for any reason.

4. Personal Reflection

Turning a new age becomes a time for hope, not only for a new year but also for a reflection of the last. It’s totally okay to cry on your birthday because you’re still figuring yourself out. Or, maybe you realized you hate your job and want a new one. Birthdays can offer a perspective on yourself and your life that you’ve previously ignored. So, if you cry for this reason, maybe it’s time to become a better version of yourself.

5. Plans Not Working Out The Way You Hoped

Everyone expects birthdays to be a big deal to their peers and family, just as it is to them, but others don’t always do the right things. Expecting your friends or family to drop everything and make your birthday plans a top priority, can cause major tears when no surprise party comes or no one shows up. People get busy, plans can change, but this reason will never not be extremely upsetting. Just remember, if you’re crying on your birthday because your friends didn’t show up to your party, they aren’t really your friends after all.

The expectation that things are going to go perfectly on your birthday often fails but, don’t worry, it’s okay to cry. Sometimes having those emotions means saying goodbye to the previous year and hello to the next one. So be a hot girl and cry on your birthday.

Bailey McIntyre

Wilfrid Laurier '25

Bailey is in her third year of English studies at Wilfrid Laurier University. From a small town, she escaped when she could by writing whenever possible, as well as reading all things Sci-fi and Romance. She loves Snowboarding, Baking and watching early 2000s movies with hot chocolate. Bailey has a passion for all things writing related and is also the Arts and Life Section editor for The Cord Newspaper at Laurier. Wishing to pursue editing and publishing post grad, writing is her main creative outlet.