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Confessions of A “Former” Wallflower

The first time someone called me a wallflower I was less than thrilled. However, after coming into my own and going through the paces at university, I realized that being a wallflower to some degree is practically a superpower amongst those struggling to fit in. And while the introvert in me would be more than content staying at home watching Netflix instead of kicking it at a frat house – sometimes it’s good to get outside of your comfort zone and mix things up! Here are some pitfalls, opportunities and celebrations I’ve observed from my days as a “former” wallflower. 

You have a hard time accepting compliments

You spend a lot of time listening and reassuring others so when the conversation veers in your direction, you can’t help but get slightly uncomfortable. 

You are observant, like VERY

Like, maybe even a little too observant? You notice things that others don’t, and this can be a great skill to possess in both your personal and professional lives. 

Most of the time you prefer your own company

While your attention can be easily caught, it actually takes a lot to impress you and earn your respect. This especially goes for friends and romantic partners. You’re very comfortable on your own so anyone vying for your time has to compete for the time you spend with yourself!

Being shy or quiet often holds you back 

Participating in class can seem pretty daunting when you’re afraid of your own voice. Don’t let being shy hold you back from getting that grade, seizing that moment or standing up for yourself. I know that it’s easier said than done, but you have to start somewhere! 

You’re genuine and people can trust you easily

You’re everyone’s go-to shoulder to cry on which means you have probably heard some things you wish you hadn’t. All of this practice has made you a great listener and empath. You have a deeper understanding of people and give out great advice. 

So, whether you’re still standing on the sidelines or in the center of the dance floor, keep doing you Golden Hawks!

Alexandra Geitz

Wilfrid Laurier '20

Alex is a third-year English and Communication Studies major and writer for HCWLU. You can usually find her avoiding a large TBR pile of academic journals wishing she was at the beach reading fiction instead!
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