Help! I thought my boyfriend’s roommate was out and he saw me naked coming from the shower! What do I do?
Ah yes, the quick naked escape from the shower to your room isn’t always a successful jaunt, but don’t fear it happens to everyone.
What to do now? Laugh about it! By being awkward and embarrassed, it will only make things weird, so my advice is to just make a casual joke. You could always stop by your roommate’s room while he’s there and say something along the lines of “haha sorry you had to witness my post shower run, I was trying a new air drying technique!” and then just let it go! So what, he saw you naked! Shrug it off and keep doing you girl.
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My roommate’s boyfriend never leaves our house even though he has a place of his own. He always uses our stuff and makes a mess. How do we tell her he needs to leave?
This is a common dilemma with university roommates, it’s the first time a couple gets to have a space of their own away from their parents, which tends to lead to couple-blending. (Couple-blending (noun): being together so often you mold into one person).
I think your best bet here would be to sit down with your roommate and have an honest discussion about how you’re feeling and maybe set some boyfriend ground rules. For example, that if he’s over that he needs to ensure he cleans up after himself, and that he shouldn’t be using anyone’s stuff without asking for permission first. Also, be honest that you’d like a space of your own without having her boyfriend around. It’s your home too, and you are entitled to some quiet house time. You could suggest that she could go to his place some nights so that the girls can have some actual girl time.
It’s important here not to attack her personally, she’s in love, and when you’re in love you want to be with the person 24/7 (ahem, couple-blending again). Just point out what has been upsetting you, and see if you guys can come to a solution so that everyone is happy and comfortable.
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HI MIK,
So my best friends boyfriend is a shady f***. I’m scared to tell her because i feel like she won’t believe me. She is so in love with this guy that anything anyone says she won’t believe. He also is a really good sweet talker and can get out of pretty much anything. Recently it has gotten worse, he texts and talks to girls at bars behind his gfs back. Honestly, i don’t want to be the one to ruin the relationship… I feel like he should have to ruin in. He’ll get caught right? He’s such a nice guy that it makes me really sad he is doing all this. HELP PLEASE, do i say anything? or wait for him to get caught?
My number one belief in life is that honesty is the best policy (especially with your friends), but when it comes to situations like this, sometimes honesty is not always best. When you hear about someone’s significant other doing some questionable things, it’s always hard to decide your best plan of action.
This situation is a prime example of what I like to call “love blinders”. When you become so in love with someone that all you want to see is the good and in turn block out the bad. So if you truly think that she is not going to believe you when you tell her what has been going on, or rather she’s going to “block it out”, then it may be best not to tell her (especially if you don’t have any concrete proof). Telling her and having her not believe you might result in damaging your friendship, or even worse it could entirely ruin it. My advice here would be to try and support her as much as you can, and try to not let what her boyfriend is doing affect your friendship with her.
If you say things are starting to get worse and his shady shenanigans are starting to escalate, then his chances of getting caught are also going to escalate, bigger risks means a bigger loss (am I right BBA students???). It’s sad to hear that he is a nice guy, hopefully this is a minor phase and he’ll stop acting this way because no one deserves that. I wish you and your BFF the best of luck, I hope everything works out for the best!