1. Removing your ex from your social media is immature/childish!
I actually think removing an ex from your social media is a sign of growth! It takes a lot of strength to recognize that you are not a “chill” ex-partner and that you still have feelings for them. To stumble upon their Friday night stories will naturally make you feel low and hold you back from moving on. That’s why I think it’s a good idea to remove them until you’re ready to deal with their life updates! I cannot stress enough how important it is that you don’t feel pressured to stay friends with your ex! Even if they initiate the friendship, but you know you’re not ready for it, you must decline their request! If you know you can’t truly be happy for them as a friend, there’s no point in trying to seem cool and hurting yourself further. Breakups are hard enough but to deal with the social media aspect of it makes the process worse! So just take your time to heal and be friends with them when you’re actually ready to be a good one!
2. You have to get under someone to get over someone!
All these movies and TV shows have led us to believe that our first reaction to a breakup should be finding a rebound ASAP! While that helps some people relieve stress, it’s not very effective when trying to move on from your ex. People choose rebound sex as a coping mechanism thinking that it’ll reduce the pain that comes from a breakup, but I think they’re just delaying the process altogether. It’s an easy way to run away from reality for a bit. It helps people avoid the sea of emotions they’re feeling, from denial to loneliness. Instead, it’s important, especially at such times, that you take time off and make peace with yourself. Feel all the emotions so you can become a stronger individual
3. You need closure!
Again, movies and TV shows cannot stop emphasizing the importance of closure! It’s believed that we need closure to move on from someone, especially when the breakup is sudden, as it brings satisfaction and an end to our doubts or pain. I believe if the closure comes easy, it can be worth it, but going out of your way to get closure from an ex can end up being very embarrassing and pointless. I say pointless because more often than not, exes feed you with more lies instead of being honest. I don’t think everyone can get the beautiful closure they expect. Instead of longing for it and bothering your ex in hopes that they can give you closure, I think you should look for closure yourself! Let your last conversation with them be the last and make peace with your past!
4. Binge eating!
Over the years, rom-coms and sitcoms have us believing that the only way to feel good after a breakup is to indulge in a pint of ice-cream! While some of us do turn to comfort food, that is not true for all. We generally pamper ourselves by eating/doing things we never got the chance to while we were in the relationship. Experiencing that new sense of freedom and independence sure does help us move on! So ladies, do not go on an unnecessary and unhealthy eating spree. Do indulge in comfort food but beware of binge eating as it can have some serious negative impacts on your body and mind.
5. You’ll never find someone else like them!
It’s probably a good thing! Even if your ex was the most kind or caring person ever, you guys still decided to break up! So, there are probably some things about their personality that didn’t work out for you and vice versa. If you continue to seek people that are similar to them, then you’re just trying to get into the same mess all over again! It’s important that after a breakup, you identify and understand the things about your ex that didn’t work for you. So just believe in yourself and in the fact that you will find someone who is a better match for you!