Have you ever had a crush on someone but was afraid to make the first move? If so, I totally understand and it’s completely natural. I was always the shy girl who would have a crush or see a cute guy in class and be way too scared to make the first move. It’s frightening because of the uncertainty of what is to come from the situation. What if the feelings aren’t mutual? What if the friendship gets ruined? Along with the fear, it’s unfortunate that many women, even in today’s society, feel that they aren’t allowed to make the first move and that it’s the man’s job. Recently however, I finally gained enough confidence to tell the guy I was interested in how I felt. I thought the connection we had would crumble because of me but actually, it turned out a lot better than I thought!
Dating in college can be tough, so when the school year started, I told myself not to fall for random guys and to focus on independence. Unexpectedly, things changed when I met a guy in one of my English classes in the fall. Initially, I didn’t think much of him and classes until we both slowly started to express our interest in settle ways. Things like making eye contact and getting to class way too early just to talk led to us catching feelings. During winter break, we hung out once but drifted apart. I thought that I would never see him again up until recently when we crossed paths once more. Believe me when I say that I was extremely nervous to tell him that I was still interested because I didn’t know if he felt the same way. I remember it was late at night and I texted him feeling so panicked. Fast forward to today, we’re taking things slow but it’s great. For us, it was one of those “right person at the wrong time” kind of scenarios when we first hung out.
The point I’m trying to make is to just go for it! Yeah, it’s scary and nerve-wracking but how are you going to know what’s going to happen unless you try? There’s been times in the past where I’ve told guys how I’ve felt and it’s failed but that didn’t stop me from trying again. I hope that whoever reads this can gain inspiration and courage to say how they feel about someone regardless of fear or the possibility of rejection because life is too short to not take any chances.