Whenever I read an article bemoaning anything branded as âp.câ I canât help but think of the infamous quote: âWhen you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression’ (1). People are starting to rally against being called out for âspeaking their mindâ when âspeaking their mindâ is actually offensive. They claim that their right to free speech is being oppressed, ignoring that their speech continues to perpetrate existing social structures that oppress others, because hey, itâs just locker-room talk, isnât it Trump?
If your views hurt minority groups, someone telling you to shut up isnât oppression- you are in the privileged position here and so cannot be oppressed. What is happening is that someone else is asserting their right to not be oppressed, i.e. is arguing for equality. Being anti-hate speech is not the same as being anti-free speech, itâs anti-being a dick.
In particular, anger over safe spaces has become an issue. For me, safe spaces are places to share experiences, places to learn and grow together. This is especially important for minority groups who do not have the privilege to be able to do this in normal society. Recently, we have seen the growth of these across university campuses allowing students to connect and cope. Obviously, in order to be a safe space certain rules have to be laid down which can involve content notes or not allowing certain speech such as racist slurs. Why anyone would want to barge into this space and start telling people whatâs what without any consideration for their struggle is beyond me. Why they would then become angry when people told them to shut up is, frankly, ridiculous.
Moreover, people often claim that âmollycoddlingâ is causing university students to become âsoftâ rather than robust people who can debate until kingdom come. People seem to forget that for some every day is a struggle. Whether this is being victim blamed by the media, being threatened to have your âpussy grabbedâ, being laughed at in the street for holding hands with someone you love- sometimes you just need a break. A break where you can be yourself completely and unapologetically because you struggle to do so in everyday life. This same argument of struggle applies to content notes. Sometimes people are just not strong enough on that day to cope with listening to certain things and thatâs okay. Taking a couple of seconds out of your day to say a few words on content is not an oppression on free speech, itâs not mollycoddling: itâs a way of helping people. It could even save someoneâs life that day.
So the message Iâm trying to convey in this article is perhaps the oldest and wisest piece of advice in human history: just be nice. Itâs far easier than getting all het up and writing a Facebook rant or Spectator article about safe spaces. If they really bother you that much then ignore them, simple.Â
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(1) The closest I could find to the source of this quote was Franklin Leonard on Twitter.