It’s that time of year again, collegiettes. A time where small talk becomes second nature, the most stylish clothes make an appearance, and booze and boys are completely out of the equation. Ladies, its Recruitment Week 2014!
Whether you are going through recruitment as a PNM (potential new member) or are on the “other side,” chances are you are a tad bit nervous. I mean, the days are very long, you must impress the other collegiette, and you have to constantly battle your fear for word-vomming all over the place (or passing out, that happens, too). Perhaps the biggest anxiety for both PNM and sorority girl is getting stuck in a dead-end conversation. Here are some tips that can help you dodge any awkward conversation.
Compliment her outfit: This is always a good conversation warm-up if you are nervous. Not only will this get the other girl smiling, but it will provide a friendly start to your next 15 minutes of chatter. Some may think they are coming off superficial; but it’s only superficial if you actually hate the outfit and are putting on a fake smile. Don’t pull a Regina George.
Talk about break: Isn’t it convenient that recruitment comes right after break? Hello, this is your time to brag about all of your adventures. Talk about how you went skiing in Colorado, tanned in Puerto Rico, or how you helped your mom cook a Christmas ham for 25 of your crazy relatives. Do you feel like you accomplished nothing? It’s okay to admit how you watched all three seasons of American Horror Story on the couch all day long – hey, maybe the collegiette you are talking to loves that show too!
Talk about classes: Okay, this one may sound boring but it can actually be very valuable! To the PNMs – talk about what you want to major in or what your interests are. Chances are that the girl you are talking to is older and can give you sound advice on professors, classes you cannot miss, and study habits. If she doesn’t have any pieces of advice, you can ask her about her experience at Wake. If there’s one thing people love to talk about, it’s themselves.
Now, these are bits of advice for the first day or two of recruitment. On the second day (skit day) it may be good to talk about the skit or dance you just saw or danced in!
As the third and fourth day rolls around, focus on the sisterhood of the chapter and what kind of philanthropic events they hold.
PNMs – don’t be afraid to say “too much.” You can say anything you want to any sorority girl. Also, don’t think that girls are judging you. During this week, YOU are the judge. After all, you are trying to figure out which sisterhood may be the best fit for you.
Sorority girls – this is your time to remind yourselves why you joined your chapter. Share a story of you going through recruitment and what brought you to your organization. Reflect on your experiences and how your chapter has shaped you as a person.
Although it’s hard to come back after a much needed break, recruitment is a great way to ease into the craziness of school. Just remember, take a deep breath before every party, drink lots of water, and get plenty of sleep. You may be extremely nervous at first, but chances are the other girl is just as nervous as you.