Q. Is it appropriate for me to have a drink at professional networking events?
Are you of legal drinking age? Then, yes. However, if you don’t typically drink alcohol, now is NOT the time to start. Loose lips sink ships, as well as relationships and job offers.
Not legal? Then no, not appropriate. Since it is important that you present yourself as a law-abiding citizen. :)
So, how to navigate these waters?
1) If you want an alcoholic drink, accept one and nurse it for the entire event. Save the party for later. You’ll stay focused and appropriately social without embarrassing yourself or your fellow networkers.
2) If you don’t want an offered drink or you’re not of legal age, ask your host, bartender, or waiter for your favorite alternative, “Thanks, but I‘d prefer Sprite if you have it.” They’ll likely take your cue and tell you about other options.
3) If the host continues to press you to accept a drink you don’t want, simply change the subject by focusing on him or her, “What do you like most about working for XYZ company?”
In either of these last two scenarios, if you’re worried about appearing uncooperative or unhip, consider this –Leadership qualities are, according to employers, much desired and in short supply these days. Using judgment and demonstrating commitment to your principles are easy ways to demonstrate that you are, in fact, a leader.
In future columns, I’ll share tips on interacting with others and making the most of a networking event, but for now keep these in mind:
- Carry your drink in your left hand, keeping the right one free and dry for handshakes and introductions.
- Wear your nametag on your right shoulder, so that a new acquaintance can easily read it while shaking your hand.
- Keep conversations focused on mutual professional interests and away from controversial subjects, like politics and religion. For example, even you’re sorely tempted to debate Obamacare, keep your opinions to yourself. It’s not worth the risk of offending potential colleagues.
Carolyn Couch
A Certified Professional Coach and a National Certified Career Counselor, Carolyn Couch is Associate Director for Career Education and Counseling at Wake Forest University. She has been providing comprehensive career coaching for Collegiettes and Campus Cuties for over 15 years. She is a past columnist for the USAToday Online Career Center and a former board member of Dress for Success (Winston Salem NC affiliate), an international organization promoting economic independence of disadvantaged women.
Send your career questions to her at couchca@wfu.edu.