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Aphrodite’s Advice: Think Like a Guy—Texting Edition

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Anonymous Author Student Contributor, Wake Forest University
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Cassie Brown Student Contributor, Wake Forest University
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Wake Forest chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

 

There’s always that one guy…the guy who you love to hang out with, study with, chat with, etc. There’s always that small feeling of excitement you get as soon as you receive a text from him. However, guys aren’t always that great with communicating via text, which can actually be irritating for us girls. Sometimes, you just have to think like a guy. There may be reasons why he texts you a certain way, or takes hours at a time to respond, or only texts you on the weekends. So what exactly goes on inside his head when he texts you?

Long periods of silence: When you text a guy and he finally replies hours later, or not at all, it can mean two things. One—he’s extremely busy, and he’s doing his absolute best to contact you. When people are super busy, they are often too distracted or overwhelmed, forgetting everything else. So don’t feel too hurt if this is the case. Or, Two—he really isn’t that interested in you. If a guy doesn’t like you, he may be too afraid to openly tell you so. So (guy logic here) he’ll think ignoring you will soften the blow. If this continues for a few days, with no reason, you could probably assume this is why you two only have 3-message conversations.

The one-word text:  “K,” “Okay,” “Yeah,” you get the idea. If a guy sends one of these replies to you, then he may just not feel like texting that day. Maybe he really isn’t much of a texter anyway. No worries, not a lot of guys are. If he’s being short with texting, then you should probably be short back. Texting can be a hassle sometimes anyway.

Only contacts you at night: Do I need to explain this one? This clearly shows he is only interested in one thing—and it isn’t your personality. If you never hear from a guy, except during late hours of the night, he’s giving you a booty call. Just be smart with this, and don’t put yourself in a situation that you’ll regret.

Smiley faces: This guy must be into you. A happy face after his text message? He’s into you. A winky face? He’s really into you (and is even hitting on you). If you like this guy, then definitely take it as a good sign.

“Whatever you want”: It’s always aggravating when a guy sends this. Whether it’s planning for dinner, or a time to hang out, sending a “I’ll be fine with whatever you want” text can just make things harder for us girls. However, this shows that he just wants to do whatever you want. He wants you to take the initiative. Guys often love when girls take action anyway.

Starts the conversation with a “Hello” or a “Good morning”: Probably nothing to hype up about, but if you find a text from him first thing in the morning, he likes you. Starting a conversation with you means that he was thinking about you, and really wants to talk to you. Besides, who doesn’t love a text by a crush when they wake up?

Last-minute cancellation: You two planned on getting dinner since earlier in the week, but then he texts you saying he can’t make it? Hours before you’re supposed to meet him? Unless he has a legitimate reason why he cannot make it (fraternity, family, homework), then you should probably take this as a sign that he was never into you in the first place. He thought hanging out was a good idea at first, but changed his mind once it actually came around.

Guys can be annoying and confusing; however, these types of texts can also indicate what a guy truly thinks about you, and if he wants a certain thing out of you. Confusing as it may seem, sometimes they can actually end up being quite predictable.

Until next time,

Aphrodite

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Cassie Brown

Wake Forest

Editorial Campus Correspondent. Former Section Editor for Campus Cutie. Writer for Her Campus Wake Forest. English major with a double minor in Journalism and Communication. Expected graduation in May 2014.