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How Discovering my Love Language Drove me to Baking

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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Virginia Tech chapter.

What is a love language? Love languages are separated into five categories and tell us how we like to spread our love. These include: acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch and gifts. Knowing your love languages may not seem uber important, but they can help pinpoint the ways you like to receive and give your love to other people. Finding a person whose love languages compliments yours is crucial to having a lasting relationship. If you are a person who has the love language of physical touch, it makes the most sense to be with someone who also enjoys physical touch; otherwise, you may feel as though you are not getting everything you want out of the relationship.

With that being said, I have never put too much thought into what my love languages are. It was not until recently that I decided to take the quiz; it should be noted that before taking the quiz, I already had an inkling that my biggest love language was words of affirmation. Once taking the quiz, this theory was confirmed while I also learned that I enjoy acts of service. I was not surprised considering that it is one of the most popular love languages, I mean everyone loves hearing how highly another person thinks of them. But the question remains, what sparked my interest in taking the quiz? I had just started seeing someone new (now my boyfriend) and I found myself in a position I had not been before. Upon learning that my partner has an insane sweet tooth, I had the urge to bake him anything his heart desired. As I’ve mentioned, this is not a feeling that I had experienced prior and though it does not seem that unordinary, for someone who is impatient in the kitchen, it is. So I took a love language quiz in search of answers.

Though baking in itself is not a love language, I feel that it can easily fit under the acts of service category. What are acts of service? Acts of service is best described as doing things for your partner that you know will make them happy; whether that be, helping them around the house, making them a meal or driving them somewhere. I, obviously, have found myself in the middle. I think over the course of the summer, I baked at least five batches of cookies, two cakes, and a couple cobblers as well. Though being in the kitchen for long periods of time can seem tiring, I always find myself feeling energized after I finish; I am filled from toes to head with excitement. I think knowing that I am doing something my partner will enjoy helps relieve me of any exhaustion the task itself may bring (which is how I know it is one of my love languages). I could bake him something new every week and never grow tired of it, and the same could be said about him receiving these treats.

So to keep this short and sweet, I would recommend figuring out your love languages. If not to decide how you like to give your love to others, to decide how you would like to be loved. In doing so, I believe that you will be able to find happiness within yourself and within others. No harm can come from learning something new about yourself.

Leah Copeland

Virginia Tech '24

Leah is a senior at Virginia Tech. She is studying Political Science and English with a minor in Women and Gender Studies.