Navigating relationships can be very confusing. It’s very difficult to know how other people are feeling, especially when they aren’t very forthcoming with their emotions. When you have feelings for someone, it can be really hard to notice red flags and gauge intentions. When you’re getting to know someone that you have a romantic interest in, there’s no guarantee that you will end up in a relationship. However, if things aren’t working out, the parties involved should make that clear. That does not always happen, though, and sometimes one person knows things won’t go anywhere, but they string the other person along anyway. No one deserves to have their time wasted, so here are four signs that the person you are interested in is not worth your time!
- They Don’t Set Aside Time For You
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Spending time with a person you’re dating or talking to is important. It gives you the opportunity to get to know each other, gauge how comfortable you feel around one another, and just see if they’re emitting good vibes. If the person you are interested in doesn’t set aside time to hang out with you, then they are not actually serious about you. Many people have busy schedules, but they prioritize the things most important to them. If they wanted to spend time with you, then they would. If they make plans to spend time with you and frequently cancel, then they don’t respect your time and likely had no real intention of spending time with you in the first place. Also, if they do spend time with you but only seem interested in doing so late at night, then they likely aren’t looking for a relationship and are probably just interested in sex.
- They Don’t Communicate With You Regularly
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Communicating using your phone can seem like a hassle. Texting can be really impersonal and boring if the person you’re texting is a dry texter, and talking on the phone and FaceTiming can feel awkward when there’s a pause in the conversation. However, if you’re really interested in someone, you’ll be able to suffer through it. Anyone who is genuinely interested in someone will want to keep in contact with them. They may only be able to talk to you when their schedule allows them to, but it doesn’t take that much time to send a text, so I guarantee they have time at some point in their day to do so. If they disappear and don’t talk to you for a few days, then just pop back up after going ghost, then they aren’t actually interested in you. They may have contacted you because they are bored and want entertainment, or they may just like playing with other people’s feelings. Just make sure you don’t fall for whatever reason they feed you to explain their absence because it is insincere, and they will disappear on you again if you give them a chance.
- They Lie to You
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If you’ve ever just been listening to something the person is saying to you and just know it was an outright lie that they were feeding you, then that is a huge red flag. Some people will lie about little things that don’t even matter. They just do it because they’re untrustworthy and enjoy deceiving people. If someone is lying to you especially early on in the relationship then they have something to hide. If they’re hiding things from you then you shouldn’t trust them. Lying is not a good foundation for a relationship. Even if they are actually interested in moving forward with you, they will still be wasting your time in the long run because they are untrustworthy and will likely do something to hurt you in the future.
- They Avoid Telling You Their Intentions
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It can take a while for some people to decipher the way that they are feeling, but if you know the way that you are feeling and they are not on the same wavelength, then you should move on. When people are first getting to know each other, it’s understandable that each person may not completely know where they want things to go. However, after you’ve learned a lot about someone and spent a good amount of time with them, you should be able to tell if you have a future. If there is a delay when it comes to telling you their intentions, then they probably don’t intend for your relationship to progress any further. Make sure also that you don’t try to change someone’s mind if they tell you they aren’t ready to be with anyone. If they feel that way, they aren’t going to miraculously change their mind because of you. You will just be wasting your time if you try to change their mind, when your energy could be better spent pursuing a relationship with someone who’s actually ready to be in one. You deserve someone who knows that you are who they want, and if they don’t see your value, then find someone who does!
Hopefully knowing some of the signs that someone is wasting your time will help you get rid of people who aren’t worth your time in the future!