I like to think that I’ve grown as a person. Wait, scratch that! I know that I have grown as a person. I use to be the kind of girl that put up with sh*t and have frenemies that used me as a doormat. With that being said, I was the kind of girl who didn’t like confrontation so I just kept my mouth shut. That was when I was a teenager, and now that I’m in my early twenties I don’t mind a little confrontation. But when I do finally speak up, people call me sensitive. Let me give you a little lesson on when I’m NOT being sensitive.
I’m not being sensitive when…
1. I get upset at you for scolding me for my personality.
Listen! I’m cute, bubbly, funny, and sometimes loud. That’s just me. If I wasn’t me, I would be boring, your life would boring, and life would be boring. The universe needs a girl like me.
2. I get offended when you make a stereotypical joke about my skin tone.
Of course there are gonna be some people out there who define the stereotype of a dark skin woman, but I am not the one! It’s already hard living in a society where you are considered ugly. But it’s actually harder being around a person who is ignorant enough to think that all dark skins are ghetto and stupid. I’m am non-ghetto dark skin girl who is smart enough to kick your ignorant ass out of my life.
3. I defend my morals and values.
I’m a feminist. I believe in social, political, and economic equality of both sexes. I also believe a man and woman can go against society’s norms and live their life without being judged. Most of the people around believe that after college I shouldn’t wait too long to get married and I get criticized for that. Look! You may wanna get married in your early twenties and that’s cool, but it’s just not my thing. I want to get started in my career and become a successful woman in the entertainment business THEN get married. Society teaches women that they should get married while they’re young. Well, society’s standards are just going to have to wait until I get where I want in my career. To wrap this point up, you do you and I’ll do me and we’ll live happily ever after!
4. I stop following you on social media because I’m done dealing with your sh*t.
If you’re supposedly my friend or a significant other and I have more bad times with you than good times I’m gonna unfollow you on social media. Scrolling through my social media and seeing your face is only gonna remind me of the bad times.
5. I don’t forgive when you said all of your comments were “jokes”.
I believe when a person tells a joke, there is some truth behind it. Like the person telling the “joke” actually sort of means what they said. I can take a joke that comes at me every now and then, but when it’s a constant everyday thing, are they really even jokes anymore? Unless you’re the comedic type, but I highly doubt that.
HCXO!