The “getting to know you” phase of any relationship is probably one of the most annoying phases of all phases. From talking on the phone, to going on cute, little dates, getting to know someone new can SOMETIMES be nothing short of repetitive and bothersome. Well, regardless of how we feel about this whole process of meeting someone new, we all look forward to possibly creating new experiences and memories with our future boo, and definitely don’t want to risk messing up something good.
So how can we somewhat assure ourselves that we’re doing the right things to help move our potential relationships forward?
1. Let’s start with texting
You know all those “texting rules” that say “don’t double text”, or “wait a certain amount of time before you text after your first date”? I honestly say ignore all those rules, because it’s not doing anything but wasting time. Yes, in middle and high school entertaining those rules was cute; we wanted to see if he would text us first, and if he did we’d run and tell our girls. But now, there should be no texting games. If you want to talk to them, hit them up! You never know, he may love how excited you are to hear from him.
2. In the beginning, keep things simple
Yes, go ahead and hit him up first, but don’t give too much of yourself away through text messages. When you’re still in the process of getting to know him, save all the funny jokes, and cool stories for face-to-face conversations (I’d personally also hold out on the emojis until later on in the relationship)
3. If you like them, let them know
No, I’m not saying that you should scream “I LIKE YOU! DO YOU LIKE ME BACK?”, but saying something innocent such as “I had a great time” or “can’t wait until next time” would do the job! If you’re asked on a second date, and your schedule is free, accept the invitation! You can’t keep moving forward if you try to be “stiff” to get them to chase you harder.
4. Be the real you
Trying to be the person you THINK he may like won’t work out. Be kind, genuine, and treat them the way you would want to be treated.
5. Don’t assume the worst
Speaking from experience, assuming that he’s always doing something wrong or is up to no good isn’t going to benefit you. Whatever he tells you, believe it, UNLESS you have a reason not to. If he said something that is confusing, just ask him for clarification. Avoid confusion and conflict at all costs.
6. Be patient
If things are moving slow, ask yourself if this is a potential relationship that’s worth waiting for. If you answer yes, then be patient and be willing to move at a slower pace than usual.
HCXO!