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5 Signs He’s Not That Into You

Let’s face it ladies, guys are confusing and it can sometimes be a challenge to understand what they want. Unfortunately, not all of them are upfront and honest about their feelings or intentions. It can be incredibly hard to swallow the pill of rejection, but it’s better to know before a possible heartbreak. Here are a few signs that MAY suggest he’s not that interested: 

1. You always initiate the conversation

If you find yourself always texting or calling him first, he’s probably not that interested. If a guy wants to talk to you he will make time to do so, at least every once in a while. 

2. There’s no relationship outside of the bedroom 

Hanging out at each others homes can be very fun and due to limited funds, a free way to enjoy each others company! Although, if you find it that he’s only inviting you over and never on dates, his intentions probably aren’t the best. If you’re looking for something more than a bed fling, talk to him about going out during the daytime. If he brings up excuses and continues to ask you over only during the night, respect yourself and time and ditch the dude. 

3. He takes forever to reply to your messages

Do you get “I left my phone home,” “My phone died,” or “I don’t look at my phone,” excuses? Although these are legitimate reasons for delayed messages, if you get these excuses very often, they are probably just that: excuses. If you find it that he is taking a very long time to reply almost daily, he probably has other things or girls on his mind. 

4. He feels comfortable talking about other girls

This is almost an immediate sign that he probably isn’t interested in you. If a guy feels like he can express his interest in someone else to you, he’s obviously uninterested. Yes, sometimes they may bring up a random girl and share a story or two, no biggie. If he regularly talks about girls he’ll sleep with (excluding celebs),  or who he would date then he’s definitely uninterested. 

5. He never makes time to see you

Along with making time to talk to someone, comes seeing them. Believe it or not, some guys are incredibly shy and don’t know how to make the first move in hanging out. If you guys have been texting for awhile but he’s never tried seeing you, he probably doesn’t want to. If you are stuck in this situation, ask him out and see where it goes. If he makes excuses or never makes plans, don’t waste your time. 

Of course there’s no rule book to knowing exactly if a guy is interested or uninterested, but there are many signs to helping you figure it out. Or hey, you can always disappear for a while and see if he will make time to figure out what’s going on.  He may just like you!


Pre-Nursing major at Valdosta State University. Free spirited.
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