When it comes to relationships, the older you become the more complicated it is to get into a one. Things were just so much easier when you were younger, all you had to do was circle “yes” if you did want to become your crush’s girlfriend or circle “no” if you rejected his offer. Now, things are just not that simple. You may find yourself still single after a long time, even if you have been talking to a special someone. Meanwhile, everyone else is either married, engaged or in love with their soulmate. You may start to wonder if you’re wasting your time with this guy. The biggest mistake you can make is staying in a dead end relationship; truth is, you deserve better.
1. Love shouldn’t hurt
Being involved with the wrong person can bring many conflicts. Whether those conflicts are because you just don’t understand what you’re lacking for him not to want to make things official after so long or those conflicts are because you have put up with so much. When you realize that your relationship with this person brings you more pain than joy, this is the moment when you know you should walk away. Sometimes walking away can be very difficult, either because there is an attachment that you have developed or because you sincerely love this person; walking away is never an easy decision to make. You have to understand that love shouldn’t hurt this much.
2.You shouldn’t settle
Why settle for less when you are able to get more? All this guy does is give you excuses as to why he can’t give you what you deserve and at first these excuses may have been valid, but when you have put so much effort into this relationship excuses are no longer acceptable. You’re an amazing, smart, ambitious young woman who has never settled for anything less in life, so why should you settle for mediocre love?
3.You’re not an option
If after so long of talking to this guy he still doesn’t make you his girlfriend, facts are that you may just be one of many options to him. He’s not sure of what he wants therefore, he isn’t sure that he wants you as his girlfriend. This just isn’t fair to you, your feelings are important and you deserve someone who will treat just like you’re suppose to be treated.
4. You can’t do this anymore
One of the many negative sides of being in a dead end relationship is being trapped on an emotional roller-coaster. This just is not an easy thing to go through. One day you’re happy and then the next day you’re upset. You spend too much time overthinking and making yourself upset when this time can be spent on positive things. When you find yourself crying and saying that you just can’t do this anymore, you shouldn’t.
5. You come first
Although this is untrue when you’re an actual relationship, in this case it’s the best way to go. After all, this guy puts himself before you and if you need to remember that you matter.
If there’s one thing that’s for sure, it’s that love and relationships will never get easy. You as a woman, just need to always know your worth and hold the man you love accountable to what you deserve. If you truly know that this relationship isn’t making any progress than let go of it and give yourself the chance to allow a man who will love you to come into your life. HCXO!