Being friends with benefits can be satisfying yet extremely complicated. This type of relationship can bring about many complications you weren’t mentally prepared for. Here are a few reasons why having a friend with benefits isn’t such a good idea.
1. Catching Feelings
Some people have mastered the art of having sex without feelings attached and some have not. When you have a friend with benefits, you find out where you fall on that spectrum. As much as you may avoid it, often times you’re bound to end up falling for the one you’re sleeping with, which makes things extremely tricky because it’s no longer “just sex”. We are humans, it is sometimes inevitable to be just friends with someone you are often intimate with.
2. It Can Ruin Your Friendship
At first it may be fun, but as stated earlier if feelings get involved, things can go downhill quickly. For instance, one person can catch feelings and the other one doesn’t. Continuing to have sex after would only make matters worse. Once you’re in this situation it can be hard to bounce back from and can ultimately end a friendship if not handled maturely.
3. Awkwardness
So you guys have had sex and now you’re both like, now what? Sometimes your friendship can suffer on the account of not knowing how to act around each other anymore when you’re not in bed together. It can be hard to look at them as a friend without picturing them with their clothes off. It can also be awkward trying to define the relationship in terms of what’s okay and what’s not.
4. It Can Hinder New Relationhips
You can get so caught up in your friends with benefits relationship that it stops you from pursuing other love interests. You can’t find love with one person while you’re doing IT with another. Being with someone in that way can make it difficult for you to find interest in someone else.
5. Jealousy
When feelings have come into play, you are subject to find that big, green, ugly monster named jealousy on your back. What if your FWB wants to have sex with someone else too? Since you guys are just friends, you have to be okay with things such as that, but who has ever been okay with sharing someone they love?