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Single, Independent and Happy

What is with the negative stigma of being single? Being a single woman is so much more rewarding than society is lead to believe. I am proud and confident to say that I am single, independent and happy. You should be too, and here’s why:

Living life at your own pace

Everyone seems to be in such a rush to be in a committed relationship, and get on with their lives. Not me though, I am focused on the present. I’m in my twenties and this is the time for me. I’m supposed to figure out who I am right now, what I want, and how I’m going to live my life. There’s no one to rush me, and I get to just do my own thing until I find someone who is down for the ride.

Independence is great

Knowing that you are capable of doing things on your own is so rewarding. I don’t feel the need to rely on anyone to fix something, or make me happy. I do it for myself and that’s exactly how I like it. People walk in and out of your life so frequently so it’s important that you are able to stand on your own two feet.

Loving yourself

As young women, we are always so hard on ourselves. We reticule every aspect of our lives, and pick apart our bodies in the mirror all so we can please others. Having your heart broken time after time you start to think that it was you; all your fault. It’s not, and it never was. Being single is learning how to love yourself for how you are, so take this time to learn so. Those freckles he didn’t like? Love them. Your curves? Love them. The cellulite you see in the mirror? Love that too. Love yourself because you are your own partner for the rest of your life.

Your goals are closer than you think

Having so much extra time on your hands can be daunting at first, especially after a break up. We tend to sit and wallow in our self-pity when we should realize that our calendars just freed up completely. You can focus on your goals, and devote the amount of time they deserve. Reach for your highest aspirations because girl, you got the time. You deserved this a long time ago, and now it’s time to make it happen.

You know your worth

We have all kissed our fair share of frogs, and we are all constantly wondering when the prince is going to come along. Every guy that didn’t work out taught you something, your worth. You have learned how you deserve to be treated and now you will expect nothing less. That’s why single women are so damn stubborn. I’m no longer afraid to walk away when I’m not getting what I deserve.

In the end, you are the only person you need. So use this “alone time” to focus on yourself. You are a “strong independent woman who don’t need no man” (best quote ever). Remember this the next time someone gives you a pity look when you tell them you’re single, because it so much more rewarding then everyone knows. 

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