Explore 5 types of love languages and explore the right gifts for your significant other for this Valentine’s occasion!
“Each person” speaks “their own love language,” concluded Dr. Gary Chapman after years of research and experimentation in the profession.
According to Dr. Gary, “love language” is the “way of giving and receiving love”. There are 5 types of love languages:
1. Time together (Quality time)
2. Gifts
3. Thoughtfulness (Acts of Service)
4. Words of Affirmation
5. Physical touch
To find out which love language group you belong to, try taking the test here.
How can you know the love language of a couple? And what Valentine gift will touch the person most? Let’s practice spelling love language!
Love Language 1: Words of Affirmation
One important thing to notice for people in this love language group: they don’t want to hear love words.
They love to hear sweet, but sincere words.
1. Write a few lines of letters, stanza or lyrics that tell you what you value the person for, and then send it to that person.
2. Write down the best things about them on notes, hide them everywhere in the house, and then ask the person to go on a “hunting” trip.
3. A lovely postcard or a card containing loving words will fill the other half’s heart with happiness and joy.
4. Make a special playlist just for them. Borrowing lyrics to affirm your heart is a good way when you are someone who is not very confident in your own words.
5. Shoot a small vlog about memories between you two so that your lover can review it at any time.
Love Language 2: Time together (Quality time)
Those who speak this language consider time the most precious gift. Don’t play around on the phone or do other things while you are with them – they want quality time together.
This is the love language of people who value someone spending their day together. If given gifts, they will appreciate the gifts that the givers put their time and enthusiasm into.
6. If you have time, invite that person to go out. Otherwise, book a room in the heart of the city and spend a day together.
7. Make your own card or a lovely bonsai pot for the person you love.
8. Art performance tickets – movies, plays, and live music are also a classic way to share quality time together.
9. A dinner date is never a bad idea.
10. Sign up for a workshop or course together. Cooking, dancing, crafting – practicing and learning together is advantageous in this love language as it motivates the two of you to get to know each other better.
Love Language 3: Gifts
Do not confuse this love language with materialism, because the person who likes to receive a gift is more concerned with the love, thoughtfulness and meaning behind the gift rather than the physical side of the gift.
However, it won’t be fun when they know you’ve run out of money. Your proactive spirit is what matters here. Small and often unexpected gifts are how they assess how much they are important to you.
11. Surprise them with their favorite morning drink or shopping voucher so your other half can choose what they like.
12. Sneak a surprise gift into each other lunch bag
13. Deliver a special Valentine’s Day gift to his/her/their agency.
14. Buy books or music albums that they have long wished to own.
15. Make a book of good quotes or a photo album containing your good memories – then let them find it by surprise at home.
Love Language 4: Thoughtfulness (Acts of Service)
“Leave it to me, I will take care of it for you!” are the words that they want to hear the most. Ask yourself, “What can I do to make his or her or their life less difficult?”
16. Do the work they wanted to do for a long time, like watering or planting trees.
17. For couples who already have children, helping take care of children so that your significant other can rest assured and get more sleep would be a great idea.
18. Research and plan what you need to prepare for your upcoming trip.
19. Taking them to places they like to go would be so amazing, especially when they prefers actions over words.
20. Cook breakfast while the person is still sleeping and let them have more time to sleep in the morning. They will love you so much for doing this!
Love Language 5: Physical touch
Thankfully, “time together” and “touch” are two languages of love that are quite easy to combine together. Let the touches be the highlight of each meeting such as hugging tightly, holding hands or curled up together on the sofa while watching your favorite movie.
21. Linking arms or holding hands while wandering through the city, hiking or just walking is pretty much as good as it can get.
22. A massage can bring a feeling of comfort and dispel fatigue for the body. A massage session for a loved one is a big bonus.
23. Prepare a “home spa” such as a relaxing bath with candles, essential oils and some wine for example.
24. Turn on music and dance while holding their hands. You can learn how to do ballroom dancing together (at home during the pandemic).
25. Participate in physical activity together, like playing sports. Even walking together on a cool evening is romantic enough.
Most importantly, don’t forget to love yourself! As you learn more about your love language(s), you can use these as examples to request your significant other or loved ones to fulfill them. It is so important that you understand your love languages because it allows you to know how you want to love and be loved by others.