In the dating world, there’s a big difference between being unlucky with love and being super picky with the people you date. To figure out which one you are, consider if any of the following sounds like you:
- Your friends wonder if you’re ever going to find Mr or Ms Right.
- You go on first and second dates but never make the leap into a relationship.
- You get home after a date and think of all the bad things that happened instead of the good.
- You meet someone and pick out their flaws instead of considering the whole picture.
If you just happen to have a little big higher expectations than most, there’s no need to worry. Your future does not hold the title,“crazy cat lady,” nor does it entail making your jeans the enemy after a few too many pints of Ben & Jerry’s. Just start looking at dating in a new light!
Start realizing that everyone has flaws.
Start realizing that people have flaws and that its okay. Who wants to be perfect anyways? Flaws are what make people beautiful and interesting. Dropping them in a hot second just because they don’t have perfect teeth shouldn’t be the deal-breaker.
Know the difference between the actual deal-breaker between the flaw.
Don’t get the deal-breaker and the flaw mixed up. If a guy feels out a few sexist jokes or treats the waiter with disrespect, then maybe it’s time to make up a quick excuse to leave. However, if the guy is wearing an ugly sweater, give him props for trying to look nice for you! Focus on the moment overall and not the individual aspects.
Get inspired with other people’s views.
Every wonder what other people’s “types” are? Sure, you’ll hear the “I don’t have a type” line, but everyone has a little something that drives them crazy (we mean in a hot way, of course!). Be totally non-nonchalant in conversation and see what they tend to look for when they’re single. It’s crazy to see how different people’s perceptions of others are.
Settling vs being less picky
What a negative word in the single-person world! Nobody wants to settle, and nobody should settle. You have to take into consideration that you’re only being a little more liberal with your expectations and not completely dropping them. Go for somebody that isn’t necessarily your “type” and test the waters!
But where are the sparks?
If the sparks don’t fly immediately, no biggie! Be friends and see where life takes you from there. If you stay friends, that only means you have another person who you can eat too much pasta with or go to for advice without judgment. Be open to meeting new people, because you never know who is going to come your way and sweep you off your feet.
Open your eyes a little wider
Try out new things and get a new taste for things you’re not entirely used to. Expand your interests a little further – even if that means going out and snagging a new flavor ice cream or going to a few new yoga classes. Keeping yourself stuck in the same old routine won’t motivate yourself to change your point of view.