The GUYd: How to Grab a Guy’s Attention…and Make Him Act on It

The GUYd: Insight into the Male Psyche

Think about how many jokes there are that occur in bars.

The Classic Joke: A guy walks into a bar. What does he say?
The Punchline: Ouch!
Get it? He walked into a bar? Like a pole…
 
The bar and party scenes play a large role in our culture, and while there may be those nights when you go out with just the gals, you’re still going to get fixed up, and you’re still going to be flattered when the cute guy in the booth checks you out as you walk by.
 
But what exactly is it that makes those boys’ heads turn? And what exactly is it that makes that cute boy feel like he can come up and talk to you rather than just looking?
 
I surveyed over 30 UVa boys to learn not only what grabs their attention but also what keeps their attention on you. The results and conclusions we can gather from those results? Read on!

What facial feature do you notice first?
37.5%Eyes
34.4% Smile
6.3% Cheekbones
21.9% Hair
 
Conclusion: While in general it’s always best to highlight your best facial feature, the parts that express the most emotion (eyes and smile) will get the most attention.
 
What part of the body attracts you most?
21.2% Boooobies
9.1% Rear-end
21.2% Legs
0% Waist
0% Arms
0% Hands
48.5% Just generally nice proportions
 
Conclusion: Ok, so the boys may have been hedging their bets on this one, but I think it’s still safe to conclude from this that the best way to dress yourself is not to flaunt but rather to flatter. While some boys’ eyes may be drawn to large amounts of cleavage, most boys are just happy to see you wearing something that best flatters your general shape – whatever it may be.
 
Do you notice clothing?
30.3% I like a girl to look dressed up.
45.5% As long as she looks put together, I think she looks nice.
24.3% I don’t really notice. As long as she seems comfortable, she looks good.
0% I don’t care about her clothes; I can only think about what she’ll look like without them.

Conclusion: Remember when Elle asks Warner what kind of shoes she’s wearing, and he answers “Uuuuh. Black ones?” Guys generally can’t tell if you’re wearing this year’s hottest styles or last year’s leftovers. All they can tell is whether or not you seem comfortable in what you’re wearing. One boy answered:“For clothing, different styles work on different girls. Confidence always looks good though.” As long as you seem confident in your own skin and clothing, they’re going to take notice.
 
What are you most likely to approach?
9.1% The hottest girl.
84.8% The girl who looks friendly.
0% The girl who looks like she’ll come home with me later.
6.1% Depends on how drunk I am.  With enough liquid courage, I’ll go up to someone who would normally intimidate me.
 
Conclusion: That extra hour you spend putting on your face could probably best be used sitting at a bar stool and smiling.
 
What would give you enough courage to talk to a girl?
12.1% I’m pretty bold; I could go up to anyone.
57.6% If she made eye contact and smiled at me for a few seconds.
30.3% If we were standing next to each other, and she seemed friendly.
0% If she initiated conversation or asked to buy me a drink.
 
Conclusion: Most boys need a little bit of encouragement to come talk to you. That “lock eyes for three seconds” rule just might be true.
 
How can you best tell that a girl is interested?
33.3% She asks questions and seems engaged in the conversation.
36.4% She keeps her eyes on me and isn’t looking around.
27.3% She touches my arm or hand a lot.
3.0% She doesn’t immediately make an excuse to leave.
 
Conclusion: Paying attention to him shows interest (rocket science, I know). Conversely, playing hard to get probably does more harm than good.
 
Men may rely on their eyes to make some immediate conclusions about women, but if we’re being honest, we do the same thing to them. So what better way can we use our eyes? Look back through the results and see the attention boys pay to those windows to our souls: eyes are the facial feature boys notice the most; the best way you can make a boy approach you; and the best way you can express interest.
 
Overall Conclusion: If you have your sights set on that cutie in the booth, establish and maintain eye contact!