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Why Distance Doesn’t Matter

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UTM chapter.

“Distance sucks.” Yeah, I’m aware. Especially when all you want is a hug after a long day but your significant other is three hours away. Three hours. That’s not very long, right? Wrong. That’s three hours there and three hours back. When you add in the time you actually spend together (we’ll go with 2 hours max), you have a total of eight hours of your day. What college student has eight hours to spare frequently? Unfortunately, not me.

Giving up on someone because of distance was not an option for me, and it shouldn’t be for you, either. Yes, you will get jealous when other girls walk down the street and see their bf every day for at least four hours, and they go out to eat and study together weekly. But you’re not them. You’re you. There are seven billion people in this world, and you are trying to restrict your soulmate radius to, at max, an hour from your location? Probably not.

My boyfriend goes to college three hours from where I do, but every weekend, holiday and break, we do our best to be together.

Honestly, after not seeing him for a while, that first time back together gives me butterflies. Like, who is this man? Oh yeah, he’s mine!

Don’t be afraid of distance! If it’s meant to be, you both CAN and WILL make it work!

Normal people don’t spend every waking minute with their boyfriends, so why fear the distance?

The key factor to making long distance work is the love and trust you have together. If someone loves you, they’re going to love you and care about you when you’re together and apart.

Making it work comes with sacrifices, but, honestly, all relationships come with sacrifices. Yours just may look different than others.

I’m not going to lie and say it’s easy because most days it’s not. Most days I just want to forget the world and go running to my boyfriend, but then I remember I can’t. However, others don’t value the presence together. You will! You’ll cherish every moment together! It’s so worth it!

Calls, texts, snapchats and the occasional FaceTime are totally different than in-person conversations and cuddles but come on, people, they’re still comforting!

Distance should not stop you from loving the man of your dreams! Don’t let it, people!

Buy a private jet if you must – okay, you don’t have to go that far, but if you must. Give up those days binge-watching food network. Sleep three fewer hours. Whatever you are willing to do.

If you love someone, distance is the LAST thing that should be in your way!

I thought people were CRAZY when they told me, “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.” A mixture of laughing and crying followed that statement, but then I realized what this overused quote means. It’s actually true.

You may miss your person for a while, but when he or she comes back, it’s one of the best feelings. Distance strengthens relationships. Distance emphasizes the amount of trust that your relationship is built upon. Distance has changed my relationship for the better. No, it’s not always sunshine and rainbows, but it’s totally doable!

Never give up. Every time you get to be in your significant other’s presence, it’ll be that much more special. It’s the greatest feeling knowing that even though my love is stretched so far, it’s so strong nothing can break it. It’s the greatest feeling ever – no matter how far away – that I have found my person, and I’m keeping him for the long run.

Love is love, people, no matter the number of miles between your beating hearts.

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Jesus will save you, sweetie. Just a girl that loves Jesus and cookies.