One thing we all have in common is the need to speak and be heard. Being listened to makes people feel appreciated and important to someone. Who doesn’t love that feeling? I know I love being heard. I can talk about my life and conspiracy theories for HOURS. Just like people love being heard, people need to also learn how to listen. This article will help you learn to be a better listener to your friends, family, and those who just cross your path. Part of the reason you would want to be a good listener is because being a good listener boosts people’s confidence. It makes the person you are interacting with feel like you value what they say and it makes them feel important. Being a good listener helps you become more open minded. Listening effectively makes you listen to people’s perspectives and understand where they come from; helping you understand why they make certain choices and decisions. Lastly, you should become a good listener because it creates connections. Connecting with people on a deeper level is a necessity to living because it helps people to foster trust.
Now, ask yourself how good of a listener are you. To be a better listener you must possess these qualities:
1: Effective Communication- Understanding multiple ways people communicate (sometimes not saying anything is saying something).
2. Effective Listening- Asking questions, observe body languages (including yours), and listen to the tones in their voice.
3. Integrity- Be professional but still habitual and normal.
4. Motivator- Improving their lives and recognize that their problem is important and delicate.
5. Compassionate- Do not be judgemental. Be open, honest, and get as close as possible to the person you are listening to. You will be able get onto their emotional level.
6. Patience- Be able to know when to give someone space and time to think.
7. Possess an Understanding of human behavior- Everyone wants to be understood. People are very easy to listen too because they also want to be heard.
Nobody can say they are the perfect listener. I hope after reading this, your listening skills will be better and more effective to make those around you feel extra special.