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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Utica chapter.

Have you ever smiled through everything, even when the world around you was crumbling? As the saying goes, “everyone deals with pain differently”, which is completely true in some aspects, but sometimes you just wish the pain and the weight of everything would go away. Well, smiling is how I deal with pain.  I would rather bottle everything up, than crying in front of people, just to have them feel bad for me or use it against me.

Most people might find it weird, but that’s my way of coping with difficult experiences, because I have a hard time trusting people with my problems. I am also not fond of telling people about being bullied throughout middle school and not being able to get past it, no matter how hard I try. My grandfather passing away after I graduated from high school, right before I started college is also extremely hard for me to get past.

I have found that dealing with things this way makes every day easier. Although talking to someone would allow me to completely get past everything I have kept in throughout the years, I am unsure about it. It’s not a bad idea to talk to someone about your problems, but it can be really hard to open up.

While it’s not bad to smile all the time, it’s ok to cry and to talk to someone when you are going through something. I have found out that having friends you can talk to makes it so much easier to open up because they are always willing to help. Don’t judge a book by it’s cover. People that smile all the time also have difficulties in their life.

 

Meet Chantelle, I am Chantelle,currently a Junior at Utica College majoring in Public Relations and Journalism to receive my Bachelors of Science degree. I am the treasurer for the Residence Hall Association at Utica College, in which i help students to improve the environment of their residence halls by fundraising to bring enjoyable and inclusive activities to residents.I believe that helping to improve the residence halls will allow students to not only appreciate, but respect their living spaces. I work in the Writing center as a tutor. I am a member of The National Society of Leadership and Success and a sister of Theta Phi Alpha.
Meet Bianca, I am currently a Junior at Utica College in Utica, NY.  I am a Criminal Justice major with a concentration in Homeland Security.  Crime investigation has always been something that interests me.  I’m dedicated and passionate and it’s hard for me to quit things. I get that from my father so don’t hold it against me- he was a veteran and police officer for 20 years.   Growing up in a family centered around law enforcement has helped guide me in this direction, and I will forever be grateful.  After graduation I intend to continue on to law school where I can further my education in hopes of becoming a criminal defense lawyer and later on a District Attorney.  An interesting fact about myself is that I found the passion to be a criminal defense lawyer from watching the O.J. Simpson case.  The facts and conspiracy theories evoked a whole new passion behind criminal investigation that I intend to use in my future.  One of my most prominent moments in my writing career was when I wrote for an online magazine and had my most prevalent article hit 1.6k shares.  I believe in treating people with the same kind of respect and manners you would expect in return, and in a way it has helped shaped my expectations in life.   When you first meet me I won’t be the loudest in the room or the center of attention, but I will be intently listening to everything you say, for what you have to say may have a purpose. I believe in purpose. I believe that everyone is here to help you grow into who you are today and who you will be tomorrow.