“We’re not in Kansas anymore,” Dorothy says when entering Oz for the first time. That’s a lot like what entering college feels like, especially in a new town. Change is necessary for growth but that doesn’t mean it’s not challenging. For most, friends are our support systems that ultimately help in keeping our life together during difficult times; however, others don’t have that simple luxury. Real friends are utterly important and extremely hard to find, not to mention the fact that our society relies on social media platforms to judge someone’s character. How do we know if a potential friend’s intentions are true when it seems to be almost everything about their character is posed?
When starting a new season of one’s life, the question always arises, “who are my true friends?” Subconsciously, we humans compartmentalize all that we have when our comfort is stripped from us. It’s incredibly natural and necessary to reanalyze what is not serving you in a changing period of your life. Friends have everything to do with the energy you bring into this new season. As difficult as it is, as humans we often sense when there has been an energy shift in a relationship. For example, a romantic relationship is often cut off or feared the second a shift has been sensed. Why is this not the same action taken with platonic relationships? Letting go of people, especially those that were once close to you, is not easy in the slightest, but once it’s done the space that opens allows for the right energy to bring in a new match.
Creating new space for new people is one of the most rewarding tasks a human can accomplish. Understanding that the love you had for a close friend will always remain but taking your new wisdom to learn more not only about yourself but also someone new is a shot of dopamine. As we grow our energies grow with us and some relationships may grow apart due to this energy shift. What most people don’t consciously comprehend is the subtle act of removing negative energies even if they were once positive to promote healthier relationships. Finding real friends is not as simple as waking up and leaving a current relationship; however, once the space is opened up for matching energy, it will attract to you like a dog’s fur.