You ask any girl and she can give you a hundred different stories about how guys react when a girl isn’t interested in them romantically. You get everything from “she’s crazy” to “she must only like assholes”. Because if someone doesn’t want to be with you the only reasonable explanation has to be because she is insane or a masochist. There is this tendency for guys to sort of play the victim when a girl doesn’t want to date them. They play all of these mind games to preserve their ego because it simply can’t comprehend the rejection, “I mean, come on dude, I’m awesome” so they make up all of these rules and assumptions in order to make themselves feel better. They say things like “oh I got friend zoned” or “girls just like jerks, I am too nice”. These things are to only untrue, but dangerous.
These comments and stereotypes are dangerous to women because they perpetuate the belief that women are only good for having sex or that they somehow owe you something simply because you are a man and have been “nice” to them.
There is no such thing as the friend zone, It just doesn’t exist. At least not in the way men are portraying it. Girls are not just using guys they don’t really like for dates and gifts. I am not saying that it never happens, but most of the time girls aren’t just stringing guys along because they like the attention or the things you do for them. Most of the time they really just want to be your friend. What’s wrong with that? Why is a girl wanting to be your friend the worst thing to happen to a guy? Is it because men see women as inferior to them or like the owe them something for their time? There is this ancient belief (one that I sincerely hope is dying off) that if a man spends money on a woman, or even just spends his time on her, then there is this expectation that the woman then in return owes him something back. That thing more often than not is sex; this could not be further from the truth. You never owe a guy anything other than the same respect and treatment he shows you. Whatever the reason maybe these thoughts and beliefs are keeping sexism and rape culture alive and well.
Nice guys don’t finish last. This is just what guys say when a girl rejects them because saying she only likes jerks absolves you of any fault why she doesn’t want to date you. Contrary to popular belief, all women are not exclusively into bad boys; that is just a sterotype. In fact most girls want a guy who treats them well and respects what she thinks. We like the knid gestures and loving words, and no one wants to be treated like a doormat. This is just an excuse for guys use to treat women poorly and then justifiy why it is okay. It’s easier to say that than the truth which is there are probably a million reason why she doesn’t want to date none of are because you were to nice. Maybe she just got out a relationship, maybe she is still in a relationship, maybe she doesn’t want a relationship, maybe you’re weird, maybe you live in your mother’s basement, maybe you use the word swag in a non-joking way, maybe you are just not her type, maybe she is just not that into, maybe you’re not even not that nice of a guy. In fact if you use any of these thought processes to justify your actions that degrade and objectify women then you probably aren’t nearly as nice of a guy as you think you are.