Maybe I was born in the wrong generation, but why does dating in 2015 seem to be so hard. I mean, I’m only 20 but due to social media and our strange cultural norms of this generation, it doesn’t seem like it’s going to get easier.
We live in the era of “Netflix and Chill” and unfortunately, that counts as a date. And some people refer to dating someone as “talking” to them. There is no taking you out for dinner or coffee first, it’s straight to the hook-up. And when you hold out for a couple dates, they just seem to disappear. This is the hook-up culture.
We live in a time when courting someone (formal definition of courting: be involved with romantically, typically with the intention of marrying AND go to great lengths to win [favorable attention]) is basically nonexistent. We live in a time of not wanting a title, but still wanting relationship benefits. (And we all know friends with benefits never last)
Social media is killing relationships too. With Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter we are never able to really be without someone. We can never truly get the “I miss you” feeling. And we can see everything they are liking, who they are becoming friends with, and who they are talking to which is really a relationship killer. Social media puts everything out there and creates tense-jealous situations that I know have personally destroyed a relationship of mine.
I don’t want to make it seem like I’m putting all the blame on anyone but me, but one way that we can fix this is to be upfront. Say what you want. If a guy wants you, they will tell you and make it obvious. If they don’t, they won’t care if you end up leaving or not. If you are okay with this hook-up culture, more power to you! I wish I could do that, but I want commitment, and if you want it then say it. Eventually the right person will come around and you may have to kiss a bunch of toads (and it might seem like everyone is a toad) but, you will find your prince. 2015 is coming to an end, and maybe as a New Year’s resolution, you could make what you deserve yours. Because I know I will make sure I am upfront and get what I deserve this new year!