We have all said it at least once before “I hate Valentine’s Day”. This may be due to the fact that many of us were or are still single, and with the constant emphasis on sharing this special day with our lovers by all the commercials that bombard us on a daily basis, it’s no wonder why this thought would cross so many people’s minds. Well, I’m here to tell you that being in a relationship or not on Valentine’s Day does not validate the love that you have in your life. Being single on Valentine’s Day can actually be a pleasant experience. If you’re opposing to this, then just keep reading on; let me tell you why your Valentine blues should actually be Valentine Woo-hoos!
No boyfriend means more gifts and dinners for you.
First off, being the fabulous, young, incredible person that I know you are, with your busy school and work schedule, you may have decided that being in a relationship right now just doesn’t fit your lifestyle. For the most part of the year, being single more than likely really doesn’t bother you; however, for some reason during the holidays and Valentine’s Day, you may be questioning yourself of what is so wrong with you that you don’t have a boyfriend. I dare you to look at your recent call log or text history right now. I bet you have a few guys that you have been “talking to”. Just because the two of you are not “official” doesn’t mean that doing something for Valentine’s Day is a no go. Ladies, you don’t have to wait around for the guy to ask you out either. This is 2012 and just in case you don’t know, guys actually like it when girls make an initiative to spend time with them as well. To keep things from being a little weird though and to guard you from seeming desperate, have your date a few days before Valentine’s Day. This will allow the two of you to show that you care for each other, but kind of takes away the thoughts of taking your relationship to the next level. If you happen to be talking to a few different guys at the moment, play your cards right and get a few free dinners and treats such as chocolates and flowers throughout the week. Being single on Valentine’s Day also leaves the door open for some surprises. You may have a secret admirer immerge who also decides to shower you with some valentine cheer.
Valentine’s Day is a great time to connect with other single friends.
So whatever plans you end up making with your guys, just make sure that you keep Valentine’s Night open for your girls. Some girls just don’t know how to handle being single on Valentine’s Day and as one of their single friends, it’s your job to be there for them. I remember I had a friend one year that was absolutely hell bent on me spending Valentine’s Day with her just so she wouldn’t have to be alone. Spending this night with other single girl friends can actually be quite therapeutic. People like being with others who are in the same situation as they are to just talk, share advice or vent with. But this night should be more than just that. Make this night fun; after all you do all love each other. Order a heart shaped pizza from Papa Johns, drink some white zinfandel and watch a funny romantic comedy. I would recommend the actual movie Valentine’s Day; it not only fits the occasion but it is a great movie that shows Valentine’s Day from different perspectives.
Send some love towards your family’s way.
I hate to say it, but many of us don’t visit with family as often as we should. This is a great occasion to stop by and visit your folks. Pick your mom up some flowers and bake your dad some cookies. This is cheap and easy and they will love it. If you have any siblings ask them to meet you at your parents. Parents seem to get more sentimental with age, and seeing the whole family together will be a sure bet that they will feel loved.
Visit someone who is lonely in this world.
Okay, so if your family lives too far away, all of your friends are busy on Valentine’s Day and you really just don’t have any one to spend the day with; visit someone who is in the same boat. There are many elderly people who are living the end of their lives alone. Some of the elderly’s’ significant others have passed away and their families have seem to of forgotten about them. On the average, women live 7 years longer than men. This leaves a lot of lonely old women who could use a cheerful, caring face to spend Valentine’s Day with. Check your local nursing homes or hospitals to see if any events are going on that you can participate in. Doing something selfless such as this can possibly turn into the best Valentine’s Day that you have ever had; perhaps even a new personal tradition of yours may form.
I hope you have realized that it is pointless to be moping around on Valentine’s Day, depressed, just because you are single. You have so much love to give and there are so many people to give it to. Be happy and enjoy this day.
P.S. If you have a pet show them some love as well!